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The holidays can feel full of pressures to be GLAD even if you don’t feel that way.  People talk about “holiday cheer,” “finding the silver lining,” “looking on the bright side,” all of which are fine when we feel those things, but can actually add to feelings of...

One of my favorite places to find succulence is with the city of  San Francisco, aka SARKFrancisco;-) I published drawings in the newspaper every week on Sundays for 6 years. Here is one of them, celebrating my love affair. When I moved here almost 40 years ago, I...

Loving is the whole point of course.  And this is especially for everyone who isn't a mother of physical children. For everyone who wanted to be, but didn't or couldn't. Or wanted to want to, but just didn't. For everyone who never wanted to be, but sometimes wishes...

I invite you to join me in celebrating my beloved David’s 60 years on this planet on this day of April 28, 2021. After this date wishes are welcome too! And if you’d like to add any life wisdom you’ve gleaned, please do. Favorite quotes or good books to read...

After experiencing a particularly harrowing part of my day the other day feeling anxieties, fears and resistance, I tried to “feel better” before I actually did. This really never works. Feelings always know 🙂  I’ve learned and practice that if I can “be with” the...

 When I read the book Harold and the Purple Crayon as a child, I felt like I could create anything.  Then I was challenged by life, and the living of life, and fell into a long silence with what I dreamed of creating and writing.  Thankfully I reread Harold and the...

 One of my very best love mentors ever was and is my big black cat Jupiter, who lived and loved with me for 17 years. I called him my “fur husband” and he slept with me every night - and part of each day as I was completely nocturnal at that time in my life. Here we...

The whole concept of Valentine’s Day was not ever meant to be only for couples, or if it was, it’s missing out on a lot. If we’re going to have a celebration of love, let’s make it inclusive of EVERYone. Loving ourselves truly so we can truly love others is the real...

I’ve been loving zoom teaching since 2010, and since last year, I’ve zoomed more than ever. Representing the spirit of SARK is my full time gift and privilege.  You will notice a lot going on in this photo of my screen from a few months ago. My smile, a giant purple...

Be happy. Pure hearted happiness is revolutionary if we practice it in the midst of all of our other feelings and experiences.  Here I am being re-MINDed on one of my daily miracle walks in San Francisco. And when you can’t be happy, (which happens to me periodically...

Here we are in America, seeing and experiencing such intense devastation in the aftermath of the riots in Washington last week, and white supremacy dominant all around. It feels truly heartbreaking to witness and experience all the divisive and cruel behaviors and...

My love partner David arrived to our lunch table wearing this post it on his T-shirt. And of course two tiny rainbows hopped on for emphasis. He had received this message in one of his daily communions with God & spirit, and had written these words in his journal,...

Here we are in America, at Thanks~Giving time, and in the world all-ways giving thanks. I think of it as Thanks~Grieving too. It might seem odd to give thanks for grieving, yet I believe it is generative to be gratefull for the grieving as much as we acknowledge all...

About 2 years ago, David moved from his home in Massachusetts to my home in San Francisco- he had lived in California for most of his life before that. We met on my “Inspiration Phone” line (415 546 3742) and grew in love talking on the phone for months before we met....

This is John, my beloved former fiancé who died in my arms in March 2016. It was one of the most horrifying and gorgeous experiences of my life, and I’ve written a lot about it previously in my Magic Blog, including about many of his amazing activities in the...

This photo is from a tiny party I had in July 2018, before David moved in and before the world of ourselves changed. Thank you dear Andrea for standing on the couch to take the photograph. Thank you from left to right: Virginia, Yofe, moi, Val, Eric, Vanda, Monica....

A few months after my former fiancé John died, I replaced the blinds in our bedroom, and the installer helped me take the old blinds to the recycling bin.  As we did this work together, I said,  “Thank you for helping me do this. My fiancé John would have helped, but...

Here we are in these moments of our lives, feeling our way through it all.  Life and love go on, no matter what else is going on.  I’m feeling an immense tenderness for each of us, creating our ways forward, and inward.  We contain multitudes in our stardust selves,...

It’s incredibly fun to “be SARK.” And I always love how my Australian friends change my name to “SARKY.” It makes me SMILEY;-)  I feel like I’m the representative of the SARK spirit, and in that way, we’re all “SARK.” I’m inviting you and your inner SARK out to play...

I’m always asking this question, “What will spark me?” and wondering what will get me going on one of my many creative plans or projects. Because: The siren call of lethargy is always strong. The voices that tell me all the reasons why not are loud. The absences of...

I reposted this *photograph on Facebook and it gathered SO many delicious comments and magical memories- thank you if you were one of the contributors, and for you reading or seeing now! *I haven’t been able to locate the name of the photographer- if you know, please...