A Miracle Encounter + Invitation

A Miracle Encounter + Invitation

A few months after my former fiancé John died, I replaced the blinds in our bedroom, and the installer helped me take the old blinds to the recycling bin. 

As we did this work together, I said, 

“Thank you for helping me do this. My fiancé John would have helped, but he changed his residence to heaven.” 

(I was experimenting with different ways to say that he had died.)

And this man practically shouted,

“You mean he DIED?”

And I replied that he had, and then he exclaimed,                                                    

“How long ago?” 

I told him it had been a few months. He then said,                                                                

“How can you be this good, after that happened?”

I explained that I lived in so much love, and was filled up with so much love, that even this huge loss couldn’t take that love away. I also shared that I had been helplessly sobbing on the floor before he arrived- that I had felt, and feel both horribly sad and incredibly glad, and everywhere in between. I explained that this is what I do with losses.

He then said,

“Well not me! I’m not married, I don’t have kids or even pets, I’m not going to risk losing love and getting my heart broken. Nope, no big-or little- losses for me!”

I told him I understood, and then gently asked if that didn’t mean he was living in loss every day? 

He just stopped and stared at me for the longest time and then said,

“Well, I never thought of it that way. I think you’ve opened my heart right here by this recycling bin. It’s a miracle.”

He asked if I was writing a book about this and I said that I was:

 Living (Mostly) Wonderfull: The Surprising Gifts of Terrible Things.

Now I’m inviting you to attend a brand new depthfull retreat I’m teaching called:

The Surprising Gifts of Terrible Things

*gift locating is optional

 Alchemizing Losses of All Kinds and Letting more Love IN

Get all the details and SIGN UP HERE. I’ll see you there. 

I had a conversation with my dear friend Elissa after this miracle encounter, and she offered this:

“When you try to protect yourself from loss by not loving, or by loving less, you are subject to a feeling of continuous loss.

If you choose love, and eventually lose it, the pain of the loss is temporary. You can practice loving through all the losses, over and over.”

During the retreat you will learn new ways to let more love IN because of the losses, and how to fill yourself UP with the capacity to alchemize both the wonderfull and terrible things that happen.     

(Note: this is not achieved by positive thinking- rather by feeling and loving your way through.) 

You will experience significant new ways to practice alchemizing loss and change and receive immediate benefit as you move forward in your life.

I send us all the willingness to keep feeling and alchemizing our losses and letting more love in.

Let me know how loss is moving in your life and how I can support you in loving your way through. 

love,

SARK

p.s. Come if you feel sad, depleted, anxious, hopefull, joyfull, inspired or eager to create the NEW. This is an uncommon retreat, created as a result of my “deeply grieving and wildly living” both- like bird wings. You will be nourished, uplifted and shown new ways to love yourself with ALL the feelings in your emotional family and the people in your life (and this will of course spill out into the world), and in addition to all of that, you will likely have fun;-) 

There is also an optional time for an hour after the retreat to be in small serendipitous groups. Sign up HERE.



For Anyone Grieving- Which Is All Of US

For Anyone Grieving- Which Is All Of US

I’m writing a lot about “deeply grieving & wildly living” in my new book:

Living (Mostly) Wonderfull:
The Surprising *Gifts of Terrible Things
*the gift locating is optional- some things just remain feeling terrible.

I believe that there is a new paradigm of grieving available to us all, where we are grieving not only for death, but for all of our ongoing losses.

We can be actively deeply grieving and wildly living, both at the same time with all the small and large losses in our lives- things like daily routines, lost dreams, relationships, health, hopes, ways of living, challenging financial circumstances, social justice, climate changes, these and so many other losses all call for our active grieving.

We can grieve everything as we live, and blend it all together, and apply that healing mixture skillfully to the lives we are living right now- in all of our circumstances.

Before my former fiancé John died in my arms in 2016, I thought that grief was known to me, and after the deaths of my parents and cat, and all my losses of all kinds.

I thought I was somewhat “experienced at grieving.” And of course I knew something about it, as we all do from living a life.

Death most often brings our awareness to grief in a bigger way- I know it did for me.
My experience with John’s death showed me how little I actually knew– because grief showed up endlessly to teach me.

There is so much to grieve right now.

Death of course, and losses of all shapes and sizes. There are all the non linear stages of grief to navigate and feelings to feel, and there is just so much to grieve right now.

That’s the good news.
It’s good because we love and we grieve. If we’re willing, we can let our grieving lead to even more loving.

Fear of grief and grieving is a larger loss than whatever we’re grieving. We fear grieving because we think we’ll feel worse if we participate, when in fact, we’ll feel…
perhaps not better at first- but different.

That “feeling different” starts the loosening and softening of our resistance to grieving, which then leads to more loving.

As you may know- in 2018, I allowed more love into my life in the form of a remarkable soulmate named David, and we live and love in this kind of “grieving while living” paradigm- deeply grieving and wildly living both, and everywhere in between. And I experience MORE LOVE as a result of this kind of grieving.

What’s your experience with grieving and what losses are you particularly experiencing right now? Let me know.

Also, I am inviting you to join me Thu/17 @1pm Pacific for a special gathering on FB Live, to show you ways to release some losses & let in some more love.

Register HERE and you’ll receive a recording if you can’t be there live.

love,

SARK



You Are A Creative Genius

You Are A Creative Genius

I can already hear you saying that you’re not a creative genius, or that others are, or that others are more than you, or that it’s overblown hyperbole. 

It could be the word genius;-) 

But consider this definition:

“Genius comes from the Latin word of the same name, meaning “guardian deity or spirit which watches over each person from birth” or “innate ability.” 

Isn’t that lovely? Certainly we are all qualified by birth for that.

What if I wrote: You are a creative? 

Would you wonder if you were?
Or would you know that you are creating all the time? 

Ideas, solutions, love, ways of being, food, NEW THINGS. 

And I created these words some years ago, isn’t the last line extra funny now??

I want to know:
What are you enjoying creating?
What do you wish you were creating?
What do you enjoy about zoom? 

 Respond in the comments, and we will all be inspired. 

I’m creating more love and creativity everywhere and in every way that I can.
Join me in creating a new world that works + plays for EVERYone.

Love,

SARK



I Send You

I Send You

Here we are in these moments of our lives, feeling our way through it all. 

Life and love go on, no matter what else is going on

I’m feeling an immense tenderness for each of us, creating our ways forward, and inward. 

We contain multitudes in our stardust selves, and benefit from reading about, seeing and feeling the certainties of love

I Send You: 

Daily prayers and the constancy of love. 

Pray for surrender. Love is always with us. 

Harder laughter and more tears. Let’s cry more. 

Rich butter cookies with no calories. Shortbread is good. 

A sudden unplanned nap. A luxury nap. 

I send you a dream in which you fully realize that none of us are alone, and that we are all seen, heard and loved just for being. 

I light a candle in your name. 

We are succulent and brave, holy, ordinary, stumbling creatures

I send you love

Love,

SARK



You Are A Creative Genius

If You’re In Despair

I am frequently feeling despair these days, and am navigating anxiety deeply. 

People still get surprised to hear this- I guess because I use a lot of bright colors and often write about miracles. They forget or don’t know about all the ways I write and have written, about the darkness and all of the many ways I experience it. 

I’ve been doing this for my whole long writing life. 

I started writing and publishing at age 10, and then spent 25 years experiencing so much fear and procrastination, that I silenced myself. 

Then I learned how to get truly connected to my creative gifts, make them REAL and continue offering them. I’m still doing that. 

And thank GOODness that I’ve learned more about continuing to move along and through whatever challenging feelings I have, and keep practicing avidly. I used to feel like I was the only one feeling so much. I now know that our feelings are a universal language and experience

Isn’t it odd that we persist in thinking that others have it better or easier than we do? Meanwhile, we’re all human, humaning along, with all of our feelings and resistances and fears, with all of the feelings in our emotional families. 

I believe that the more we feel in community and communion with other people about our feelings, the more easily and often that we’ll love ourselves and others

Share ways that you are feeling and what’s working for you with feelings like despair, grief, loneliness or fear– or any others- we’ll love knowing and sharing in your experience, and add it to our internal resource libraries.

If you wish, read more in my Magic Blog about fast ways I uplift myself in times of despair- or any other challenging emotions, and how you can too~ 

Upliftment can happen when we can feel what we feel and keep moving with our feelings. 

Many people try to avoid, deny, repress, anesthetize, or otherwise hide from their feelings. 

We know it doesn’t work, but the alternatives seem worse, so we keep practicing NOT FEELING, and then that habit gets stronger. 

There’s a much easier way to feel better more often, and that’s to feel your emotions.

E-motions are feelings that MOVE

I’m always practicing ways to let my feelings be felt and moved. One of these ways is giving myself permission to feel whatever “it” is. 

Give yourself permission to feel your feelings by saying their name or names out loud. 

You can say sentences like this one- any kind of acknowledgement will work: 

“Despair, I see you, I feel you, I hear you” 

And you can add the word love to that sentence if and when you wish. 

This allows the feeling to soften and change shape, and allows your love in

As a result, you will feel more of your feelings more often, and be able to move WITH your feelings, instead of resisting, refusing or trying to hide from them. 

More love will get in, more love can be delivered, more love will be generated. 

More feelings felt = more love to feel. 

Isn’t that lovely? 

Love,

SARK



SPARKY SARKY back to PLAY

SPARKY SARKY back to PLAY

It’s incredibly fun to “be SARK.” And I always love how my Australian friends change my name to “SARKY.” It makes me SMILEY;-) 

I feel like I’m the representative of the SARK spirit, and in that way, we’re all “SARK.”

I’m inviting you and your inner SARK out to play today

As I go around in this world, and in our inner worlds, I just love mentoring with people to SPARK their creative dreams and desires into ACTION.

We’re all full of so many dreams! 

Then we fall asleep. 
Some people keep sleeping. 

They say things like, 
I always wished that I’d had the time, money, courage or BALLS to create: 
________, 
_________, 
________, 
_________, 
Fill in all the blanks! 

Many people don’t know how or why to PLAY with their dreams. 
They labor and puff, try and test, rise and fall, forget and freeze. 

Dreams want to play with you! 
Toss a dream ball! 

You can do this by filling in these blanks: 

– My dream wants me to: 

– My dream is most visible when I: 

– I don’t know what my dream is, so instead I: 

– My dream gets lost because: 

Be a DREAM FINDER. 

Do this by keeping your dream out to play. 
Make it visible in some way. 

Fill my comments with your dreamiest play statements of what you are creating or want to create. 

I’ll be leading and teaching a super special 2-hour interactive live workshop about how you can make your dreams REAL on Wednesday, August 19th and you and your dreams are especially invited! This event is designed to help you find, revitalize, and re-energize your dreams in every way

SPARK with SARK

How You Can Make Your Creative Dreams REAL and Thrive in These Times

Wednesday/19th August

3 pm Pacific

SIGN UP HERE!


This is an Interactive LIVE Video Workshop on Wednesday/19th August and is all about amplifying your creativity, so you can share YOUR unique gifts with the world. 

You will learn: 

• Discover how to use your intuition to activate and empower your creativity

• Identify and transform your inner critic messages 

• Experience beginning more easily and completing more often using my powerfull MicroMOVEment Miracle Method

• Practice asking as if your dream has already happened- activating the energy so it can multiply and expand

It could also be considered: 
A plan for procrastinators, perfectionists, busy people, avoiders and people who would really rather sleep all day:-) 

Take advantage of the super earliest bird price until Sun/16th August and if you’re drawn, take inspired action today!

You are the creator of your dreams, and dreams need a human channel to bring them down to earth, and that channel is YOU.  

Building a creative dream life is not just about achieving, succeeding, or meeting goals. It is also about floundering, stumbling, tripping, and failing. If you practice building a way to weave these together, then your success will be measured by the process of your creative dream life, and not only the progress. 

May we welcome changes and choices that allow our emotions, bodies, minds and spirits to create our dreams AND our wonderfull lives, in unison. This will allow sustainable true miracles to happen, and keep happening!

Love,

SARK

P.S. In true SARK style, there are always succulent gifts, surprises and serendipitous happenings. I’m inviting you to be delighted and sign up today.



What SPARKS You

What SPARKS You

I’m always asking this question, “What will spark me?” and wondering what will get me going on one of my many creative plans or projects.

Because: 
The siren call of lethargy is always strong. 
The voices that tell me all the reasons why not are loud. 
The absences of belief in myself are prominent. 

Since I became SARK in this world in 1982, I’ve been challenged to continually inspire myself so I can inspire the world

People tell me I make it look easy. 

I’m glad that they don’t see the divine agitation that often precedes my actions. 

Here I am after a recent miracle walk, lying down with my legs up on a railing, recovering from some series of crabby thoughts, and then looked closer and saw that someone had reminded me to look differently by writing on the railing that “Life is good.” That sparked me into having a new series of creative thoughts

I’ve learned that there is always a spark that sets off the flame of creative activity

Questions like these start swirling around: 
“Why don’t I?”
“Maybe I could?” 
“What if I” 


SO MUCH HAPPENS WITH THE SPARK.


I dreamed of a Magic Cottage in San Francisco and drew it in my journal and moved in a month later, and still create in it today. 

After 25 years of actively procrastinating, I lit 100 candles in my Magic Cottage and wrote my first book; A Creative Companion: How To Free Your Creative Spirit, in 2 weeks. 

I was asked how I creatively live, and read out loud a poem I wrote that we are all called to be artists of life. That poem How To Be An Artist went on to be printed millions of times and flew into hearts and souls around the world, and activated my entire brand and business. 

I wanted to feel healthier in my body, so I sparked a book called Transformation Soup: Healing for the Splendidly Imperfect, and that led to my giving up eating refined sugar, which continues to this day. 

I saw how I was hiding from prosperity, so I created a book called Prosperity Pie: How to Relax About Money and Everything Else, and developed “wealthier habits.” 

I wanted more love, so I co-wrote and drew a book called Succulent Wild Love: Six Powerful Habits for Feeling More Love More Often, and created another great love in 2018 with David after my previous fiancé (and co-author) John died in 2016. 

All of my creations have required that SPARK, that preceded the flame, that then cause things to burst into BEING. 

You know I’m going to ask you: 

What are your creative dreams and desires? 

Where do they live? Maybe in a drawer, closet, computer or somewhere in your big beautifull brain? 

Now: When are you going to do them? 

Now is clearly the time. 

We are each like the bees: 

IRREPLACEABLY valuable with such rich gifts to share. 

Our refusal to believe in the power of our creativity is the absence of a spark. It is what’s missing in this world. 

What sparks you is what wakes you. 

So I always want to know: 

What’s your dream? 
If you name it here now, sparks will fly, things will get created, ideas will move, your vision will be made REAL.  

I dare you. 

Love,

SARK

P.S. Calling all creators for a DREAM RAISING DANCE PARTY on FB Live(ly) I’m doing on Fri/14 August @11am Pacific. Bring a dream as your dance partner and let’s boogie. If you don’t know what your dream is, bring your desire.


Register NOW
 
and you’ll receive the rePLAY if you can’t be there live!



A Rapture of Apricots

A Rapture of Apricots

I reposted this *photograph on Facebook and it gathered SO many delicious comments and magical memories– thank you if you were one of the contributors, and for you reading or seeing now!
*I haven’t been able to locate the name of the photographer- if you know, please let me know so I can give credit.

I titled this photo “A Rapture of Apricots” because that’s how I felt when I saw it.

This was then suggested to me on Facebook by Rachel Kirk:
“I want a grouping of everything that brings joy to be called a rapture. A rapture of peonies. A rapture of children laughing.”

Nelden Dalisay Djakababa Gericke said,
“For me, the list includes a rapture of mangoes!”

And Rachel Kirk replied;
“Yes!! And baby toes and fresh peaches warmed by the sun.”

YES!!! A rapture of everything.

I was also struck by the many descriptions of memories of eating apricots.
Here are just a few:

Penny Meallin said,
“So beautiful. It reminds me of my Grandparents orchard where we lived when we first came to Australia. I can smell them from here. Juice running down my chin”

Judith Presson exclaimed,
“Ohhhhh! We had an apricot tree when I was growing up–there is nothing like a warm, ripe, juicy apricot fresh from the tree!! What a wonderful picture!!”

Karen Casey observed,
“My grandmother had a huge old twisted apricot tree. As a kid I would climb up into it and gorge on velvety soft, sun warmed apricots. Shop brought have never tasted as good as those”

Annie Chavez muses,
“A tiny town on the Danube in Austria….ahhhhh…thank you for this priceless memory trigger…”

I think we are all extra steeping in memories right now, as we travel through our quarantine times.

In our inner worlds, we can travel through time and reawaken memories of all kinds of raptures.

What delicious and magical memories do you want to recall? Let’s share some with each other here. I’ll love to read yours.

I remember the magic of my crooked crab apple tree in the backyard and the rough bark as I climbed up there with a book. It was such a rapture of books and fruit and imagination.

Magic is all around us and that reminds me of this writing by Edna St. Vincent Millay:

“If I ever see a russet apple tree, I shall climb it. And with a book in my hand. Or, if I find that I must use both hands now when I climb an apple tree, then with a book in my mouth.”

We persist in thinking we are separate from magic, or that we must be “special” to find or experience it. Or, that it doesn’t exist.

Magic doesn’t mind, it just appears.

I believe that we can create the conditions for magic anytime we want by shifting our mood and energy to be able to see or experience it.

Ask this question of yourself more often,
“What would help make this more magical?”

It works everywhere, including at the dentist, the bank, during an argument or when you’re feeling resistance or refusal about something.

The answer might involve quitting, pausing, reconfiguring or recreating.

The question provides the space for the magic to enter. Your eyes and spirit are the experiencers.

Magically yours,
Love,

SARK

p.s. I’ll be whipping up some magic in August with a FB Live(ly) Fri/14th @ 11am Pacific and a super magical class later in August.  I’ll be sharing more about them in a twinkle of your eye;-)



Reflections About Being SARK

Reflections About Being SARK

33 years ago, I published this art in the San Francisco Chronicle newspaper. It’s now one of my beloved David’s favorite pieces of SARK art, and says it just makes him laugh every time he sees it. The newspaper called this art that I did cartoons, and I just called them SARK

I had drawn a lot of art when I was living in the Victorian Hotel of Arts and Music, during my decade of voluntarily opting out of the money system and living on barter and trade. I was trading my art for my room in the hotel.

I took this mismatched stack of my art pages to the newspaper to see if they might want to publish some, and went off on a little adventure to Big Sur, with an eccentric artist who wanted to hear my stories in exchange for a ride.

When I returned, there were messages for me saying they wanted to publish me every week! It felt like a real miracle.

It was the first money I’d made from my art. It was just $25 per drawing, but it literally meant the world to me, and I started doing even more art.

Soon the art I was doing was larger than the room in the hotel I was living in, and I knew I needed to find a new place to live.

Without any money other than the $25 I was making per drawing, this was going to be a challenge to create.

How has your creativity served you with challenges in your life? What have you been able to create out of “thin air?” Let me know.

I created an ad to place in the local free paper that said, Incredible housesitter seeks incredible house.”

The woman taking my ad said, “That’s a terrible ad- you’ll never find somewhere to live that way!”

I secretly thought she was probably right, but said, “What’s your name? I’m going to let you know when I find something.”

After several days, I hadn’t heard anything and started thinking she’d been right.

Then I received a call from a woman who said, “I have a mansion on Russian Hill, and I need someone to live in it until it sells.” Then she said, “But I’m looking for an artist. Are you an artist?”

When I told her that I was, she replied,

“Oh good! I’ve interviewed 100 artists so far, and none of them have been right. I hope you’re the right one.”

I borrowed a cartoon size beret, and got a white shirt and splashed paint all over it, and arrived at her mansion at the appointed time. 

She creaked open the garden gate and peered out, saying exuberantly, “Oh you’re an artist! Come in!”

I entered to find that she was living with dozens of cats and began to realize why the other artists might not have worked out. I asked where the cats were going to be when she moved away, and she informed me that all the cats were going with her, and handed me the key to the mansion.

I moved in the next day. The mansion had wood floors and marble bathrooms and a garden, and room to do my art. I called the woman at the newspaper who had taken the ad, and told her what I had found, and she tried to be my roommate.

I politely declined.

I lived in that mansion for 2 years, and that’s another story!

I love to read stories about people creating and living their miracles. Reply in the comments if you’d like me to read yours.

Love,



SARK

Re-CREATING Your World, The World

Re-CREATING Your World, The World

My mom used to watch a show called
“As The World Turns.”

I’ve been thinking of that as we all find our creative ways with and through this highly unusual time.

Yes- the world turns, and so do we.

As you may know, I frequently spend time horizontally contemplating life and different, more creative ways of living it.

Creating those ways and inspiring others is one of my great joys in this life.

Here I am in a little fort at the beach the other morning, having constructed a new place for me to play and generate from.

I had a “beach breakfast picnic” as I listened to inspiring music, wrote parts of my new book and sent love notes out.

I also thought about the injustices in this world and did my inner feelings care process to support my feelings being able to be felt, and keep moving. In this way, I am better able to support the world with my creative action taking.

Of course it’s not always possible to be horizontal or to be at the beach, so I utilize these creating ways from wherever I am- thankfully they work everywhere.

Let me know in the comments about something you’d like to create, or are creating. Naming it gives it more energy and momentum.

We are curious and creative creatures, sometimes prone to repetition, and creativity thrives on surprises.

How can you surprise yourself?

Here are some immediate ways:

Go a different way- driving or walking, biking or swimming

Leave your phone at home or put it on airplane mode for a few hours. Bring a pen & small notebook to write or draw in

Write a love letter to you and put it into the mail

Leave a kind note of appreciation for a neighbor

Take a bath with food coloring

Go upside down in your home

 

 

It is really so simple: doing different things causes us to be more available to thinking different thoughts.

Then the world organizes itself around your new thoughts and creating ways- and you’ll notice that you feel happier, more resilient, more ALIVE.

Our creativity and dreaming selves LOVE when we do and say different things.

New molecules get activated, new parts of us come out to play. And if you didn’t already know,

PLAY IS PRODUCTIVE

Let yourself play and be creative more often and your whole world will positively change.

And when you put yourself in the way of surprise, serendipities can more easily appear. Serendipity thrives on color and movement, and when you move in these ways, serendipity comes out to play with you.

Serendipity: the occurrence and development of events by chance in a happy or beneficial way.

You can help to create these happy ways for yourself!

Ask yourself;
Where, what, or how can I move?
What’s colorfully appealing?
What do I dream of creating?

Love, 



SARK

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