Interdependence Day & Life

Interdependence Day & Life

I am moved to honor all the loss and all the love on this Fourth of July in America

2020.

I am also moved to highlight INTER-dependence more than independence just now.

Independence is so highly valued that people feel “needy” when they need each other, and don’t ask for help or support from others because they fear they don’t deserve it, or will be judged for being needy- that they should “get it together” and not need anything.

When my former fiancé John was dying in 2015 and 2016, I needed a LOT of things.

 One time, I called our “Made of Honor” dear friend Amy, and confessed to feeling like an

“endless ball of f***ing need” 


and Amy replied, 


“Oh honey, we’re all just endless balls of f***ing need.”


It felt like such deep relief to put down the pressure of being so independent all the time and accept love and care.

I wonder why independence is celebrated so fiercely when there is so much isolation and fear.

I dream of a different way- an interdependent way- where we learn to recognize that we are all connected and related to one another, and love & live that way. Where all Black Lives Exquisitely Matter as much as our own, and that we lift each other up and care for each other intrinsically in all ways.

Of course this more interdependent way of living will require that we change everything. 

Our human lives are relatively short, and we somehow live with the reality that we will lose everything.

Except the love.

Love stands tall.

In our celebrations of independence, I propose leaving room for studying about the interdependent systems in our lives:

Who and what are we connected to, (everyone and everything) and how can we grow in that?

Love, 

 



SARK

Lie Down And Stay Awake

Lie Down And Stay Awake

As we travel through these uncommon times, we are being asked and called to both wake up and stay awake

I do a lot of contemplation and learning while lying down- it’s kind of a “horizontal life.” Here I am in a favorite park, lying down on a flat rock under a friendly tree, while hearing the sounds of a small creek. 

The heart tights were a gift from my beloved David and the rainbow shoes a gift from my dear friends Val & Eric. 

You may have noticed I like bright colors;-) they bring buoyancy to my spirit, which then allows me to share that buoyancy. 

From this horizontal life, I gain more courage and velocity for the vertical world. 

When I wrote about Black Lives Matter and being anti-racist, that was the continuation of a lifetime of work and awareness for social justice, and a reawakening of anti-racism work. 

If you missed that, you can READ IT HERE. 

In that writing I asked, “What is Yours To Do?

Do you know? 

Are you doing it, or starting to take actions? 

We need your particular way to move moving: 
If you’re a caller, call. 
If you’re a donator, donate. 
If you’re a protestor, protest.
If you’re a writer, write.
If you’re a speaker, speak. 
If you’re an artist, make art. 
If you’re a singer, sing. 
If you’re an organizer, organize. 
If you’re a visionary, vision. 
If you’re a miracle maker, make miracles. 

Whoever you are in this world, your movement and voice matters and makes a difference. 

Silence translates to violence, and we can SHIFT THAT SILENCE forever as a United States and World Collective of AWEsome Action taking instead. 

If you’re hiding or resisting, or feeling overwhelmed, hopeless, enraged, helpless, tired, deflated, upset or furious, alchemize and blend those feelings into a brand new healing mixture and get and keep moving. 

I know that many of you are reading, studying, listening and watching, in order to see how you can be of use. 

I’m writing this to inspire you to also be in AWESOME ACTION- in tandem with the rest of everything that you are. 

I’m putting into practice everything I wrote about my own action taking, and it’s often uncomfortable and inconvenient to set up new systems and add new processes for real change to occur, and to keep occurring. 

And it’s no-thing compared to what Black people live with and face every day. And yes, we all face great difficulties- right now we’re focused on the mattering and mending of Black Lives. 

You’ve probably heard it said that this kind of work is a marathon. 

I think that life is mostly a marathon, and we need to keep in training the whole time

We can’t just get riled up and horrified when Black people are killed, and then fall asleep again. Or we can, and then continue to be enabling that violence. 

Nooses are yesterday.today.tomorrow being found hanging in trees. 

These nooses are symbols of killing by lynchings of Black people, which are also occurring. 

Rest as you must but don’t fall back asleep

If you want to encourage and support change, leave a note in the comments, we will all appreciate it and you. Let me know any action you’re taking and/or one that you want to recommend and inspire others to take. All types of AWESOME ACTIONS are needed. Movement is the main key to this movement of change

MOVEMENT is the key. Any size will do. 

Most people assign themselves things that are too large and then get overwhelmed and quit. Then inner critics start up their negative dialogue: 

“You always…” 
“You never…”
“You should…” 
“See! I knew you wouldn’t…” 

If you move tinier by MicroMOVEments, you will move more often, which will gather more momentum for you to move more consistently, and keep moving. 

Use this: 

ACTION BEFORE INSPIRATION 

Even if and when you don’t feel inspired to take action, move SOMEthing which will lead you to more movements. 

In my considerable research with this subject, I’ve found that when we can start in ANY WAY, 60% of the time we’ll keep going

After over 30 years of writing personal growth books and inspiring people to move, here are some things I’ve learned and experienced. 

Read through and see where you find yourself:

  • Most people really want to help. 
  • Most people get overwhelmed. 
  • Most people procrastinate. 
  • Most people quit because they don’t rest. 
  • Most people don’t find a consistent way to keep moving in the midst of their actual life and all of its demands. 
  • Most people don’t know where to start. 
  • Most people fear that what they do won’t really matter in the face of so many challenges.


    Here are some more locators;

  • Many people think that “someone else” should take care of this problem. 
  • Many people wish that someone would solve THEIR problems.
  • Many people are too tired or deflated to take action. 
  • Many people just don’t want to move 
  • Many people are too busy with their own lives to do anything more.
  • Many people feel angry and hopeless and don’t know how to manage those feelings so they can help others. 

We are all doing the best we can, and as my friend and mentor Dr. Maya Angelou said,
“I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.” 

Does this writing move you or make you want to move? I hope so. My purpose is to be an uplifter, transformer and laser beam of love, and we can MOVE OURSELVES WITH LOVE right now and all-ways. 

Let me know how you’re doing and moving by replying here. I’ll read your response. Feel free and invited to share this blog post, and thank you for being you. 

Love,



SARK

 

P.S. Follow me on Instagram HERE  if you don’t already- I publish different things there.

How To Keep Forgiving All the Fathers

How To Keep Forgiving All the Fathers

I wrote a poem for my father called:

How To Forgive Your Father, and published it in my book Succulent Wild Woman. You can read that poem below. Writing and sharing that poem helped me to forgive myself and my father, which ultimately freed me to be able to feel more love.

I believe that forgiveness is very personal and individual, and every person can decide for themselves if it’s relevant to them. For me personally, forgiveness of all made more room for love, and it took a long time to get there and to feel that way.

My father and I had a rather tumultuous relationship, and after I got my first large book deal, he said,

“Good for you honey! We always knew you could do it.”

And I replied,

“No you didn’t! You were against me, and I almost didn’t do it at all because of you. You told me I would probably end up as a homeless person and never make a living as a writer.”

To his credit, after that, he told everyone that would listen;

“Don’t do what we did to our daughter, by not supporting her all the way! We almost ruined her life.”

He also said,

“Well honey, I don’t know why people are buying these books, but I’m glad that they are! I’ve sold cigars all these years and that wasn’t good for people. I’m glad you’re selling something that is.”

My father did and said so many other incredibly kind and loving things too. I’m spotlighting here how painfull and difficult these particular harmfull things were, and how being believed in is so essentially supportive for dreams to grow.

I know my dad was just scared and trying to protect me- he’d seen me get and quit 250 jobs from ages 14-26 and then drop out of the money system for almost 10 years and live mostly on barter and trade.

He didn’t understand my vision and he didn’t trust me.

I’m glad to say that I’ve forgiven him completely and we have a marvelous relationship– especially now that he’s in the afterlife. We cleared up all our personality differences while he was alive, and I feel so very gratefull for being able to do that difficult forgiveness work with him while he was alive.

When I met my beloved David 2 years ago, one of the many gifts of our relationship is that he brought me a whole new family; 2 parents, 2 brothers & their partners & kids, and his own 2 amazing grown children.

It feels like a miracle to have 2 more “parents” in my life again. I never imagined that!

Barry and Arline are socially conscious, progressive, and I appreciate their abilities to express love and support in ways that I can feel.

I also feel gratefull for the ways we’re able to navigate some tough stuff too, as we grow and develop as a family- we haven’t just stayed on the surface of things.

Of course there’s so much more to say about both of them, and I want to focus on my initial experience with Barry and share it with you on this Father’s Day.

When I first met him at their home in Vermont, we sat together at their kitchen table and he was enthusiastically asking me about my books, and listening closely to my responses. I love this photograph that David surreptitiously took of us communing together at the table.

As I spoke some of my book titles out loud; Living Juicy, Eat Mangoes Naked, Transformation Soup, Inspiration Sandwich, Barry became very animated, exclaiming,

“These titles are just fabulous! The titles alone make me want to read them! How fascinating that you’ve assembled these kinds of words, and that you have an audience of readers- I’m so impressed.”

His entirely enthusiastic response delighted my heart, and I felt uncommonly seen by him. Even though I have millions of readers, it had been so painfull not to have my dad’s support with my books in the beginning, in the ways that felt most meaningfull to me. I also didn’t know how to ask him for what I most wanted to hear.

This was a reparative experience for my author self, and I appreciated it and Barry so much. Thank you Barry!

Have you felt seen and supported by your father, or a father figure in your life? In what ways? Let me know in the comments. And if not, what was your experience?

Here’s the poem How To Forgive Your Father, which my dad requested that I write, and that he loved so much.



I’m not daddy’s little girl.

 

I’m a mountain lion in a skirt with prayers in my heart.

When I asked my dad what he wanted in a “dream daughter,” he said, “I wanted a daughter who would wear an apron and make soup from a ham bone.”

I’m a vegetarian who doesn’t cook.

My “fantasy father” would be super literary and work at home.

My father was a traveling salesman who struggled with spelling.

When I was 4, my dad’s head was as big as the world! I rode on his shoulders, clasping his forehead with my tiny hands and laughing as we ran through the grass.

Together we were taller than God.

My dad held my red Schwinn bike as I balanced my first solo trip, and ran alongside before letting me go to pedal into a new world.

My dad always got mad at dinner and I thought it was because of me so I sat up straight and tried to do it all perfect and he still yelled.

His dad got mad at dinner too.

I finally learned that when I could show softness, my dad could show support. I wish I’d had more time to be with him.

I remember whisker rubs and “serious talks” and standing on his feet to dance around the kitchen.

He tied my ice skates double-tight, and there was always love- large and raw and imperfect.

When I prowl through all the prayers in my heart, and in certain photographs in a special kind of light, I can see my dad’s face inside my own, saying “Stick with me kid!”

I know now that he loves me in his language– that the past stuff is just fog on the mirror- that the little girl inside never stopped loving him.

She feels the love and forgives the pain.

Hey dad! I’ll love you forever you know.”

After I met Barry for the first time, I knew that he might not follow through with reading one of my books- sometimes people speak with initial enthusiasm about something, and then it just kind of fizzles out. Barry had asked me which of my books I recommend that he read first- and I said, Glad No Matter What: Transforming Loss And Change Into Gift And Opportunity.

Not only did he get the book, he actually read it, and then wrote me a thoughtfull email about his experience reading the book, and what he received as a result!

This experience with Barry reminded me how we all bloom with tending, and that in his care of me and my work, I felt tended.

And of course I am consistently tending to myself, and no longer look to people reading my books for approval in the ways that I did when I was younger- it was just such a luscious and unexpected surprise to have this kind of “dad do over” experience with Barry, and at this time in my life.

I’m also so thankfull for all the many ways my own father was able to lovingly support me and show up.

And let’s acknowledge all the men in this world who are able to love and show their support as fathers, or father figures.

I’m so glad for daughters and sons who can speak directly and clearly about the kinds of ways that love gets in, and how that love is able to be felt by them.

My wish is that we all learn and practice how love feels best for us to receive, and directly let our fathers know it – and find alternate fathers, or learn how to have our “inner father” show us love.

And if your father has departed, consider communicating with him now, and practice forgiveness* if you want to.

*note that I believe that forgiveness work is very personal and individual, and better if not forced or made into any kind of tyranny. It is not “better” to forgive, if in the doing of it, you make yourself “wrong” in any way. There is so much room for growth with love.

Love,

SARK

Dreams Being Made REAL

Dreams Being Made REAL

After over 30 years running my creative business, one of my greatest joys and privileges of the last decade is to also BE a mentor and coach, and help others make their dreams REAL

Throughout these years, I have also been mentored by others and continue to be.  

We are truly not meant to create our lives, purposes and dreams alone. To this day, I continuously utilize the services of good guides and mentors at such times, and as a result, can be an even better mentor for others too. 

I live my life in the stream of energy that results in the activation of my dreams. One of the ways I love to play and create is privately mentoring people to expand their dreams playfully & exponentially.

I’m delighted to share this recent Dreams Being Made REAL story from one of my previous Magical Mentoring clients, the radiant Shereen Sun. In the picture above, we are on a Miracle Walk together in San Francisco.



Shereen became one of my Magical Mentoring clients in 2018, as she was getting ready to write her first book and share her incredible story with the world. She knew that she needed someone to hold non-judgmental, but also very disciplined space to get her words channeling and flowing. With me as her guide and mentor, we dreamed together about the vision of this book and what it could BE.

Throughout our time working together, Shereen learned how to further develop her creative process, create a more consistent writing practice and how to work with her inner critics so that they were no longer stopping her. She developed and nurtured healthier writing habits and learned how to mostly quit procrastinating. I say mostly, because it’s an art to practice. 

Above all, she learned that she loved writing, and the newfound discovery of this resulted in the biggest dream of all being made REAL. 

In her own powerfull words; 

“My ✨ Blessed Book ✨ actually started two years prior when I hired my favorite author SARK to be my writing mentor. Her whimsy and free-spirit helped me let loose. She told me her vision for me was to get messy, to cry on the pages, and to write this book for myself inner-child first. I knew that by working SARK- I’d have to show UP, because she is such an amazing model of what it means to live an authentic and magical life. 

Eight months ago, I was involved in the inaugural Diverse Wisdom Initiative led by Hay House.  This initiative is a program meant to bring diverse voices into a notoriously NOT diverse industry— the world of publishing. 13 BBIPOC (Black Brown Indigenous People of Color)were selected as finalists and we were given stellar training on how to create a solid book proposal. 

In the end, one of us would be selected to win an actual, real publishing contract with Hay House. I knew that when I wrote my book, I wanted it to be published by Hay House. But for so long, this felt like a long-shot. File this dream under completely and totally *out of reach.* 

I doubted everything when I was writing this: my work, my message, my qualifications, and myself.  After so much work and lots of showing up, about 2 years after I started, I’ve finally found myself as a writer — and, a soon-to-be-published author by Hay House! And now, this dream is becoming even more real. I’ve been assigned an editor who I adore and am officially bringing this project to life. 

In retrospect, SARK + I  dreamed about all of the things the book could be together. And everything we dreamed is coming true! I got my first, real-life book deal…. with my dream publisher!  She truly is the mastermind behind guiding others on unleashing their creativity, standing for who you really are, what you really want, and how you desire to express yourself in this world. “ 

Thank you Shereen, and congratulations! I’m so excited to read, celebrate, and endorse your fabulous book! 

You might have a book that’s wanting to be created or completed,  a visionary product ready to be born, a transformative online program, a new way of being, or another idea that’s ready to MOVE and be made REAL.

In order to make our dreams possible and to make them REAL, our dreams ask us to be willing, curious, committed, flexible, determined, and patient. I love leading people along their powerfull path to doing and being more of their dreams in ACTION. 

Magical Mentoring with SARK is open now and I have room for 6 wonderfull souls. If you’d like to work privately with me, you can apply HERE. 

Of course, it’s a significant investment to work privately with me, and the results are significant also. I’m aware that this offer is cost prohibitive for many people, which is why I also have low cost options and free resources too. 

Who and where will you be with this kind of support? I will love to join you in finding out. I’m so glad to support you in your dreams and more of your dreams being made REAL. 

Whether you’re going to apply for Magical Mentoring or not, I’ll love to read & celebrate what dream or dreams you’re in action on- let me know. 

Love,  

SARK

The Garden of Curiosity

The Garden of Curiosity

Here I am being curious in the garden of possibilities~ 

Actively dreaming and doing causes the world to shift and change, as we’re seeing right now with Black Lives Matter and all the systemic issues that are arising for healing.

When we can envision and ask for the changes, change happens- even though it takes generations and lifetimes, the healings and changes surround us as we live and breathe now too.

Since first announcing my BIG dream to my mom at age 10;

“I’m supposed to be a beacon of hope and write books for the world,” 

I’ve been so curious about dreams and how they become REAL. 

My dream was primarily challenged by my being sexually and physically abused in my family, and it almost never became real because of that. In fact, I was silent for 25 years after that first announcement. During those years of silence, I was also cultivating my abilities to ask for and receive miracles. 

The miracles of having my dream be witnessed and encouraged into being by a series of loving mentors was definitely how it did become real, and now in my private mentoring practice, I see and experience the same thing with my clients who are making big contributions to the world with their dreams in action.

Our dreams love to be seen, known and loved, just as we do. 

When we can see them, feel them, name them and claim them, dreams can and do bloom forward in big ways.

Especially when someone can see for you something you can’t quite see for yourself- or they can see it bigger. 

It can feel scary to live our real dreams– I know that every dream I’ve dreamed has had multiple layers and levels of fears attached. All the “what ifs” swirl into view, all the limited thinking that kept me repeating what hadn’t worked before, or what hadn’t worked yet. Also, the significant abuses and traumas that I experienced had caused me to react very fearfully to anything new or unknown. 

I think that fears dismantle most dreams before they ever get started- but dreams are resilient when people want to make them real, and especially when they ASK, and receive support for the asking. 

And sometimes we ask without having any idea how our dream or dreams could possibly happen. 

I was asked in an interview I did the other day, what dream had asked for, that I didn’t expect would happen. 

That was easy! 

I had dreamed that a great love would just appear in my life- like magic! Then I collapsed into fears about it, and eventually just let go of that dream- or so I thought. 

John appeared in 2012, and told me that he was “qualified to adore me.” And he was. We lived, loved and created together and got engaged to be married in 2014. I did not dream that he would die in my arms in 2016. 

After that, I spent a few years DEEPLY grieving and wildly living, wondering what other dreams I might ask for. 

This time, it didn’t feel as easy. 

I wanted another great love, but was nearly paralyzed by my fears about HOW.THAT.COULD.POSSIBLY.EVER. HAPPEN.

If you’ve read me for awhile, you know that it DID happen, and that that dream became REAL. And more dreams have become real because of that one! 

What dreams are you dreaming? Which ones have become real? Which ones would you like to make real or more real? Write about it here- it’s another powerfull form of asking to share your dreams~

My dream of having another great love was impaired by my not being able to SEE it.

With all my resistances, statistics about the chances of “older women” finding love, and my long list of why it wouldn’t work for me, I was pretty positive (aka convinced) that it wouldn’t, or couldn’t. 

And then I spent quite some time proving that, and finding other people who would “relate to me” about how hard it is to find love. 

And since I couldn’t see it, I spent time gathering evidence about how it wasn’t happening- SEE!!! And this further reinforced my belief. 

I believed this way because I couldn’t SEE any ways that it could be different. 

Then, I kept multiplying my non-seeing so what I saw matched it. This was very effective at keeping everything the same, and more of what I didn’t want.  

Thankfully as I kept creating what I didn’t want, my quantum sight abilities were also being created! 

What I call my quantum sight was so much larger and more fascinating than the prior program I was listening to. 

Quantum Sight became for me, the way I could see it even if it WASN’T THERE. 

I decided to multiply what WAS there, in order to magnify, amplify, expand what else might want to join in. 

My love for life itself became that magnetic draw that pulled my dream right into focus. I wrote a giant love letter to the world, and created other practices to expand my Quantum Sight abilities and activate my dream. 

David and I just celebrated our 2 year anniversary, and are dreaming together now too, and practicing all kinds of Quantum Sight. All kinds of other dreams are being made REAL now too! 

I love writing, sharing and mentoring about what I discover that works for everyone to grow their dreams. 

We are all FULL OF POSSIBILITIES and dreams waiting to be seen, known and loved. And the whole wide world needs us to have our dreams in action now more than ever before.

Love, 

SARK


*p.s. I’ll be sharing some practices for everyone to activate more of their dreams on a Facebook Live(ly)Thu/18 June 1pm Pacific- join me to receive your dream activations. Register HERE and you’ll receive a reminder!



Let Despair Activate You

Let Despair Activate You

This is the part of the journey where we are being asked to move without proof, where our faith and ferocity are being called up as not ever before. I’m hearing and seeing Black people fully enraged and utterly exhausted and join them in that rage, and honor their exhaustion.

I’ve been actively despairing and grieving, and wondering what kinds of fresh miracles it will take to cause truly substantial shifts. I’m seeing glimmers of a vision of what it can be- both in our lifetimes and far beyond.

It’s being called the tipping point.

I think it’s the tipping over, uncovering, and mightily revealing of the most horrifying parts of ourselves and our country, that we’ve been unwilling to look at or change. 

 

Black

Lives

Matter.

 

How can it still be incendiary to say and believe that?

And yet sometimes it is, because everyone is in a different stage of awakening, and not everyone understands the concept.

Some people want to be sure to say loudly and repetitively that all lives matter, because they’re afraid that theirs doesn’t.

Of course all lives matter.

No one is saying that they don’t. 

We are all just being asked now to focus on all the Black people being hurt and killed and discriminated against every day.

And it has to stop.

Black people can’t wait anymore for everyone to be awake at the same time.

And we can’t wait either.

These killings are a systematic poison that has to be surfaced and seen in the biggest ways imaginable, and then new kinds of actions taken on every level to change it forever.

Each of us has our powerfull parts to play.

My purpose is to be an uplifter, transformer and laser beam of love, and I’ve been offering that through my books, products, programs and teachings for over 30 years. I’ve used my white privilege to benefit oppressed people, and to detriment when I didn’t know or understand how it worked, and just used it to benefit myself and my work.

I’ve also had the luxury of opting out of having to do the work of taking my white privilege apart and seeing how it has harmed, and does harm others. I’m engaged in that work now and realize that its ongoing.

As I study and learn more about racism, I’m awakening to more of my patterns and unknowings, and am getting support to be able to do better.

I also understand now more than ever before how my white privilege can be leveraged even more as a force for good, & am dreaming up new ways to be of use for diversity and social change.

What’s your part? Where can you go beyond despair and outrage? How can despair activate you?

We all have unique gifts to share in this world shaping time of changes.

I’ll love to hear your vision of what miracles there could be, or what you already are, or could see yourself, contributing. Leave me a note if you want to share.

If you’re reading this on social media, I’m not interested in reading any more defensive explanations or deliberately racist comments. If you feel compelled to offer those, know that they will be deleted- not only from my page, but from my consciousness.

If you’re one of my email subscribers, I- as much as I can- welcome our differences and political differences too. If you really know yourself to be a racist, and you’re okay with that, you’d be better off departing from my communications.

I understand that we all hold unconscious biases and that the definition of racism itself is fluid, so if you’re aware of the racist patterns you hold, and are working on eradicating them- welcome- so am I, and we’ll keep learning and growing together.

Just to be extra clear, I’m actively learning what it means to be anti-racist and committed to continuing to educate myself to be able to practice being able to be an ally to Black people and people of color. And I’m creating more innovative ways to share their transformative stories and life experiences to support change and growth. I’m so inspired about that!

I’ll be inviting you to share about that with me in a future Magic Blog.

I’ve been reading lots of comments saying that SARK shouldn’t get involved in this kind of struggle- that aren’t I just about fun and inspiration?

If you think that, you haven’t read my books, taken my programs, experienced mentoring with me, or known what I stand for.

Now you do.

And I’m going to be even more vocal and visible about what I believe in and how I’m planning to be of even more use, to support the continued growth of the newly inclusive version of the world that I believe is now beginning to more powerfully emerge.

So let’s get newly moving with our great big hearts LIT UP and find worthy replacements for hate, and the courage to keep generating fresh miracles forevermore and helping others to do the same.

Thank you for coming to these resources, and for being a re-source for change.

The majority of my readers are white, so this list is focused there. For my Black and people of color readers, I want you to know that I’m implementing new ongoing actions in my company and and activating as many people as I can possibly reach, and listening now more than ever to Black voices.

Feel free to add any other resources in the comments and know that I’m actively reading, listening, sharing, donating and creating resources to inspire myself and everyone I can reach to take actions now and ongoingly. 

I’m posting  actions and education on my main SARK Facebook page and on Instagram and am considering adding an amplifying Black voices feature to my Magic Blog, and have already started adding social justice and diversity initiatives to my Succulent Wild World membership. I am committed to continuing to weave diversity into my business activities, and educate myself ongoingly.

To Donate: 

Breona Taylor was shot eight times and killed by police in her own home. As of now, no charges have been filed against any of the three officers involved in her death.

Go HERE  to help  support Breona Taylor’s family’s demand for justice. Additionally, you can take these actions by making your voice heard below.  

1) Email Mayor Greg Fischer to demand that the LMPD fire and revoke pensions of the officers who murdered Breonna; and arrest, charge, and convict them for this crime. Email: Greg.Fischer@louisvilleky.gov

2) Demand that special prosecutor Daniel Cameron comport with full transparency and accountability. Email: attorney.general@ag.ky.gov

George Floyd, who was black, died after Derek Chauvin, a white police officer, pressed his knee down on Floyd’s check for more than eight minutes while Floyd cried out he couldn’t breathe. To help George Floyd’s family with legal fees, and continued care for his children, go HERE 

Go HERE for the Minnesota Freedom Fund: Grassroots organization helping to support and bail out protestors

Go HERE for the NAACP: a civil rights organization helping to ensure a society in which all individuals have equal rights without discrimination based on race.

Go HERE for the Southern Poverty Law Center. It monitors hate groups and other extremists throughout the U.S. and exposes their activities to law enforcement agencies, and the media. The SPLC is dedicated to fighting hate and bigotry and to seeking justice for the most vulnerable members of our society. Using litigation, education, and other forms of advocacy, the SPLC works toward the day when the ideals of equal justice and equal opportunity will be a reality.

Go HERE for #BlackLivesMatter. This foundation is a global organization in the US, UK, and Canada, whose mission is to eradicate white supremacy and build local power to intervene in violence inflicted on Black communities by the state and vigilantes. By combating and countering acts of violence, creating space for Black imagination and innovation, and centering Black joy, they are winning immediate improvements in our lives.

To Sign Up For Change:

Go HERE to join Showing Up for Racial Justice (SURJ) to build a mass base of people breaking white silence by signing up here and share this graphic on your Facebook and social media pages to invite others to sign up as well.

To Educate Yourself and Others:

Go HERE  for the great replay of Trudi Lebron’s Show Up & Serve Workshop for White Coaches and leaders

Go HERE for “Dear white people, this is what we want you to do”

 

Go HERE for 4 ways white people can process their emotions without hijacking the conversation on racial justice.

If You Love Reading: 

GO HERE to read from this great collective resource 5 min at a time & then keep going: Anti-Racism Resources for White People: “Conscious/Spiritual/Leader” Edition

Books to Activate You: 

My Grandmothers Hands: by Resmaa Menakem; Healing racialized trauma through the body (I’m currently immersed in this work and LOVING the wisdom and cellular changes I’m experiencing)

White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism by Robin DiAngelo

Pleasure Activism by Adrienne Maree Brown

Me and White Supremacy by Layla F Sayad

How To Be An Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi

What If I Say the Wrong Thing? 25 Habits For Culturally Effective People by Verna A. Myers

Racing to Justice by John A. Powell

Sister Outsider by Audre Lorde

Follow and Be Inspired to Action By: 

@trudilebron

@rachelcargle

@laylafsaad

@theconsciouskid

@nupol_justice

@kuteblackson 

@shaunking

MOVE your way along with this work and keep your awareness and actions moving and growing- not only through these times of crisis- through all the times. 

Sending us all the willingness to act and keep acting for all the necessary changes, and asking for, and receiving all the miracles.

Love,

SARK



730 Days + Nights Of Wonderment

730 Days + Nights Of Wonderment

Photo by Andrea Scher

My darling and daring David and I are celebrating 2 years of being together. 

Some wouldn’t count the first 3 months, because we didn’t physically meet until 3 months after we first met on the telephone (he called my Inspiration phone Line 415- 546- 3742) May 21, 2018. 

I count it all as a miracle because after my former fiancé John died in 2016, I was pretty positive that my time with romance or the possibility of a great new love in my life was OVER. 

I believed this way because I couldn’t SEE any ways that it could be different

Then, I kept multiplying my non-seeing so what I saw matched it. 

I am so SNEAKY when I create- sneaky in the sense that I can create anything- including WHAT I DON’T WANT. 

And I frequently repeated the common phrases: 

“All the good ones are taken”
“I’m too old”
“I’m too controlling” (basically “too” anything)
“I’m not willing to settle” 
On and on and on, including; 
“You already had one great love- don’t be greedy.” 

Thankfully as I kept creating what I didn’t want, my quantum sight abilities were also being created

My quantum sight was so much larger and more fascinating than the prior program I was listening to. 

I wanted a love affair with life. A full hearted passionate affair of huge dimensions.
A consciousness of curiosity. 
A caravan of wonderment. 

I then made the statement: 


I am truly willing and available for love, so show me the way! 


First I wrote a love letter that stated: 
I Am Dating the World. 

And I did! I began really truly romancing the world, in my own unique ways, and lived with the passion- back and forth- that I said I wanted in a person. And most importantly, I began seeing it that way. 

And in just one day after that, David POPPED UP into my world. 

And I “saw” him with my quantum sight, and allowed him IN. 

To my heart, to my life, to my home. 

And we made a new kind of quantum home together– as we were both dating the world that way before we met! 

Now 2 years later, we are more deeply in love with each other and the world than ever

Celebrate our love and your love with life and loves, with us in the comments– let’s flow more love forward using our quantum sight abilities. What kinds of love are you seeing? Let me know

We realized right away that to have a creative, magnificent and full hearted love relationship, that we would each need to fill ourselves up and share with each other from the overflow, rather than coming to each other half empty, trying to get filled up. 

So we vowed: 

To tend to our own alignment first. 

(Meaning, that we do our own inner work consistently so that we’re not projecting onto or blaming the other person for ANYthing.) 

Does it all-ways work? 

YES. 

When we practice keeping our commitment to doing it. And when we can decipher who’s not doing it:-) 

Do we still experience problems, issues, conflicts, disturbances, upsets? 

OF COURSE! 

We just don’t stay there too long. 

And when we do, we have an excellent therapist who helps us. 

Here’s to everyone further developing their QUANTUM SIGHT abilities, to trans-form whatever is un or less wanted, into what is wanted

And then we can each be loving ourselves, each other and the world EVEN MORE. 

Love, 

SARK



Part 2/The Mind Creates the Movie

Part 2/The Mind Creates the Movie

In my last Magic Blog, I wrote about how our minds create the movies we live in.

You can read or reread that HERE.

I received so many emails and comments of appreciation, and so many people sharing how they “change their channel” of their mind.

I wanted to write a part 2, because I also received some admonishments from people who wanted to advise me to “stop feeling sorry for myself and why don’t I try to help the world to be a better place.” And people who wanted to share that they don’t live in a good place, and that outside circumstances prevent them from seeing or experiencing the world differently.

I understand.

I pay attention to both compliments and complaints, and know there are sometimes things I can learn from the latter.

I know that I often resist changing anything inside myself when I “see” something terrible. It’s as if the very sight of the terrible blocks the transmission of other more benevolent layers.

There is always so much more happening than what we can see.

It can feel all consuming to be seeing and experiencing life in the midst of a terrifying pandemic and reading someone writing about their meditative picnic as though everyone has the same privilege and access as everyone else.

And of course we don’t.

As it has been written, we are all in the same storm, but we’re not in the same boat. We are all in our own boats, perceiving the world and our experiences in our own unique ways.

I felt this keenly in childhood when my older brother who had been my best friend, began molesting me inside the home where I’d previously felt so loved and safe. My friends played the same games outside, while inside, I experienced a horrifying change to my whole life and my sense of the world.

The abuse continued throughout my childhood.

It was the ultimate kind of quarantine.

What I was seeing and experiencing daily felt life threatening to me.

I developed many ways to “change the channel” of my mind during those years- some more successfull than others- some just desperate escapes.

What I was seeing and experiencing in my home did not feel safe, magical or hope filled at all. It felt beyond hopeless. 

I had to change the channel in my mind to survive. I built a world in my imagination to live in, and literally created a different world for myself to occupy.

Of course the trauma of it all caused me to disassociate from my body, and I created destructive habits and patterns that took years to disentangle from.

After a mid life suicide attempt, I began extensive therapy to really repair the damage and learn to begin my new life- one that could include everything- all the shadows and light and in between. And this work now continues every day.

This is why I live and teach in what I call the marvelous messy middle, with all the feelings in my emotional family, blending and alchemizing the wonderfull and terrible things.

So this includes too the people who judge, don’t understand or want to attack, and everyone else who lives in a movie that is very different from mine.

My choice to see differently is wholly mine.

Let me know about your experience with this too and share what might benefit others.

I created an Inner Alchemy process to help me practice alchemizing every situation and be able to mostly blend it into a brand new healing mixture.

It requires copious amounts of practice and is not a quick fix, and doesn’t always “work.” This is why I say mostly.

Because it is also important to recognize that some things just remain feeling terrible. My mentally ill older brother never transformed his drug and alcohol addictions, and died from them after years of self torture and abuse. Our family did everything we could think of to help him and to help ourselves, and it didn’t “work.”

What also happened is that tremendous understanding, love and forgiveness were generated by the whole experience, and that he had a beautifull daughter.

There is a wistfull grieving bruise in my heart about my brother Roger that will likely never go away, and I trust that what I’ve been able to alchemize about it serves others on similar journeys. 

This alchemizing and blending work is not about positive thinking, a quick fix or spiritually bypassing the necessary excavations and repairs.

Much more than looking on the bright side, it’s about being willing to be and live with, the bright, dull and in between sides- I call that the marvelous messy middle, and that’s where I mostly live- in between the wonderfull and terrible things.

There are so many terrible things, and wonderfull things, and we must become alchemists to blend the two and receive the healing benefits. And then keep practicing

Love,

SARK



Happy Mom MONTH

Happy Mom MONTH

Clearly, Mother’s Day is meant to be more than a day. Especially now, in the stupendously elongated days and hours we are living in. 

The mothers in this world need at least a month of acknowledgement, gifts, and someone else cleaning, cooking and also REST. 

Since moms don’t get much rest during quarantine times, my friend Amy and mom of 2, suggested we give all moms a month off later on- maybe in the fall. And let’s throw in some extra time for solitude and tantrums too. 

When my mom, who I called “Marvelous Marjorie,” died in 2003, a movie began playing non stop in my mind- this movie was of all the incredibly kind and thoughtfull things my mom had done for me– all the tiny, medium and large things that make up a child’s life. 

Every sweater she remembered to bring, every sandwich cut diagonally with just the right ratio of peanut butter and jelly, and buying me the biggest box of crayons in the neighborhood. This incredible mind movie played in detail for weeks. 

And I felt loved by my mom, which I know now as an absolute blessing. 

I had already processed and forgiven most of the unkind things, all the knowing and unknowing ways that hurt traveled between us. 

We were both “difficult” in our own ways, and there were primitive betrayals and times of silence and rage. 


No matter what had happened though, she still made a certain “mom sound” whenever she first saw me- a kind of accepting tone that held no words, and yet held all the love. 

I can still hear it. 

I wrote a tribute poster for her called Just For Mom. She read it out loud with pride to her bridge club, which was how I really knew she liked it. She didn’t like that it said “Forgive all the old junk,” and asked me sharply what I meant by that. 

I replied, “You know, the grudges we both hold towards each other.” 

She retorted loudly, “What grudges?! I don’t know what you’re talking about!” 

I just looked long at her, and she started laughing, and admitted that she probably did have some grudges. We both did. 

I’m glad to say that we cleared them all up before she left her body. And I know it doesn’t always work out that way. 

I want to honor anyone that has, or had a challenging kind of mother- I know that it isn’t necessarily popular to talk about moms in their entirety. Mother’s Day seems to be mostly for the idealized version of mothers- the one where they have to hide all their feelings and endlessly support everyone with everything.

Thankfully that is changing in our culture, and I am seeing a lot more willingness for moms and children to be vulnerable and authentic in their expressions. And awareness of the importance of mental health care is expanding also. 

Because moms contain it ALL, and to me- that makes it richer, deeper, and more REAL. 

And what could be more real than this long-ago photo of me and my mom? 

What was I thinking with the bow?? 

Never mind about the perm and the thumbs up. The sight of her big blue hand in that glove pierces my heart with the memories of all the good things those hands did. 

I fiercely love these 2 women in the photograph, this mom and daughter, loving each other through all the times and places, and whose legacy remains in me, as I am a kind of mother to my godchildren and readers of my books, and now also as a nurturing and loving presence for the adult children of my partner David. 

Happy mom MONTH, and abiding appreciation to all the moms still here and the ones who have departed, ones who were abused themselves and as a result, couldn’t really mother, and of course to everyone mothering with love in any kind of way. 

Love,

SARK



The Mind Creates The Movie

The Mind Creates The Movie

I was lying down on the grass under this palm tree yesterday afternoon, wishing that this quarantine was over, wondering when it will be over, hoping for it to be over, intending for it to be over.

Basically, I just felt “over” it.

Then I realized that the sun was shining, the birds were flying, the grass was growing, the wind was blowing, the clouds were drifting, and none of those are wondering when anything will be over.

I went into a meditation and received these words:

The mind creates the movie.

And then I remembered that I can put myself into any movie I want to- no matter what else is going on.

And that the present moment is the best movie of all.

I heard the palm fronds rustling and felt the breeze on my face, and wondered,
How is this different than any lovely spot in nature I’ve ever been in?

And of course it wasn’t, it isn’t, and will not ever be different. Because it all takes place in the movie of my mind.

And that movie can be changed.

Even if and when the outside circumstances are not lying under a lovely palm tree, I can still change what movie I play, or choose to watch. I can change the channel. Throughout my life, through every kind of challenge and adversity, I’ve utilized my imagination to “change the channel” whenever possible.

⭐️ I can pick reruns, or a brand new feature.

⭐️ I can create or consume.

⭐️ I can walk out early.

⭐️ I can star in the movie, or choose to be a supporting player, or one of the extras. I can direct, produce or be in the audience.

⭐️ I can be behind the camera, or spend my time editing.

⭐️ I can play the movie from the end to the beginning.

⭐️ I can stop the movie and reflect on the words or images.

⭐️ I can invite others in to see my movie.

⭐️ I can join people in their movie.

⭐️ I can offer my movie to be of help.

⭐️ I can rewind or fast forward my movie.

⭐️ I can be the movie that I wish to see.

The mind creates the movie, and the body plays it out.

I got up from my lovely spot in the grass and realized that I didn’t need anything to beover.”

I went to meet my next moment with as much love, grace and appreciation as I could possibly feel.

The birds waved goodbye, the breeze said, “see you tomorrow,” the clouds drifted happily along, and the grass just kept growing- confident in its place on the earth. 

Love,

SARK



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