SARK’s Dad As The Artist!

SARK’s Dad As The Artist!

I’d written my first book at age 10, and then fell creatively silent as I lived the rest of my life.

When I was about 20, I had accumulated a big stack of journals I’d written and was trying to get the courage to write something from them to share with the world.

I decided to ask my dad what he thought about my being a writer.

He put down the paper he was reading and listened to me share my big writing dreams. He then rather sarcastically said,

“Dream on, kid!” And went back to reading his paper.

I got really angry and loudly proclaimed,
“I will! You’ll see! I’m going to write books for the world.”

Many years later after I’d gotten my first big book deal, my dad said,
“Well, you did it! We always knew you could.”

I said,
“Actually dad, you didn’t know that I could and you sarcastically told me to “Dream on, kid!” As though you didn’t think it would ever work.”

He pondered my statement and replied,
“Well, you did dream on, didn’t you?
And, I’m glad you didn’t listen to me!”

For the rest of his life, he told anyone who would listen,
“Don’t do what I did- I didn’t support my daughter being a writer- in fact I blocked it by saying sarcastic things and she did it anyway. Be supportive of your kids’ dreams, even if you don’t understand them!”

I loved that he changed his view and became one of my biggest supporters.
I knew my dad loved me, and I knew he was just scared that my proposed life as a writer wouldn’t likely produce the results he wanted me to have. And strangely his sarcastic statement propelled me forward almost in opposition to what he had said.
In fact, when I removed the sarcasm, it became an inspiration!

He was so inspired when I became SARK and excited when I wrote more books and began traveling all over the world speaking about dreams and how they grow. After a challenging health diagnosis and before he died, he had started coloring mandalas to relax, and signed them Art by Art, because he loved that I signed my art Art by SARK. His name was Art;-)

The photo is of 4 of his mandalas. It’s a little hard to decipher the “Art by Art” but it’s there in the lower right corners. He was also color blind, and always asked me what I thought of his color combinations.

I always encouraged him.

I’ll love you forever dad!
Happy infinite Father’s Day, and here’s to all the fathers supporting their kids’ creative dreams. And to all the father figures, grandfathers and uncles who do that too. Let’s all remember that Dads have mighty encouragement POWER.



p.s. I’m mightily encouraging writers in my brand new program called: SARK’s Writing Salon: Soul-full Support to Accelerate Your Writing Results and your invitation is RIGHT HERE. 

What’s Your Nourishing Path?

What’s Your Nourishing Path?

I was recently happily wandering through this gorgeous grove of redwood trees with David and he took this photo of me walking on the path that I chose.

 While there, it struck me that there were multiple paths, and I chose this one. It felt like the most nourishing option.

Sometimes I try to do things in my life in less nourishing ways. I struggle and fight for a path that isn’t there, or I resist the actual path that is there.

 I’ve learned that when I can focus on and choose a nourishing path for myself, it usually turns out much better.

Or, I can turn something that isn’t usually thought of as nourishing, into something that is. I do this with all sorts of things, like doctor’s appointments or organizing projects or whatever else I’m busily trying to resist doing.

 And often I’ll create an unexpected sweetness to reward myself after doing something I didn’t necessarily feel like doing. And these unexpected sweetnesses are not sugar- rather they are the things that most nourish my soul.

 Asking myself this simple question; “What’s my nourishing path?” helps me to refocus, reset, or invent something new to help whatever it is become more nourishing.

 I do this with my writing and creating too- I create new paths of possibilities.

 How about you? 

What’s your nourishing path? 

And how are you choosing and inventing it? Let me know.



p.s. I’m teaching a NEW FREE mini class on FB Live (I call it Lively;-) on Wed/9th June @ 2pm Pacific and you’re invited! It’s all about delightFULLy creating nourishing ways to write and create what you dream of. 

Go HERE to register and you’ll receive a reminder and a radiant rePLAY if you can’t be there live.

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