What’s Your Nourishing Path?

What’s Your Nourishing Path?

I was recently happily wandering through this gorgeous grove of redwood trees with David and he took this photo of me walking on the path that I chose.

 While there, it struck me that there were multiple paths, and I chose this one. It felt like the most nourishing option.

Sometimes I try to do things in my life in less nourishing ways. I struggle and fight for a path that isn’t there, or I resist the actual path that is there.

 I’ve learned that when I can focus on and choose a nourishing path for myself, it usually turns out much better.

Or, I can turn something that isn’t usually thought of as nourishing, into something that is. I do this with all sorts of things, like doctor’s appointments or organizing projects or whatever else I’m busily trying to resist doing.

 And often I’ll create an unexpected sweetness to reward myself after doing something I didn’t necessarily feel like doing. And these unexpected sweetnesses are not sugar- rather they are the things that most nourish my soul.

 Asking myself this simple question; “What’s my nourishing path?” helps me to refocus, reset, or invent something new to help whatever it is become more nourishing.

 I do this with my writing and creating too- I create new paths of possibilities.

 How about you? 

What’s your nourishing path? 

And how are you choosing and inventing it? Let me know.

 Love, 

SARK

p.s. I’m teaching a NEW FREE mini class on FB Live (I call it Lively;-) on Wed/9th June @ 2pm Pacific and you’re invited! It’s all about delightFULLy creating nourishing ways to write and create what you dream of. 

Go HERE to register and you’ll receive a reminder and a radiant rePLAY if you can’t be there live.

Love Is Effervescently New

Love Is Effervescently New

Today is our 3 year anniversary, and this is a photo of David and I teaching together in the graduating class of a membership called Succulent Wild World. It was the last class of a wonderfull 4 year program and membership that I led.

For me, it captures our love vibration perfectly. Thank you Linda Kroll for the photo. And thank you to every graduating member of this membership, and every reader of my Magic Blog- AND, we’re creating something new, to which you will all be invited.

This was at the end of class, and I was swooning with my eyes closed over something one of the members had said, or perhaps something David said- it all blends together with remarkable souls.

David taught a segment called “Signs of Love” where he uses signs that he makes and puts up, to reorient his thinking and his actions. It’s extremely effective.

One of his signs I’ve worked with is

“I Love Letting Go.”

David first created this sign when his kids were moving out of the house, and he didn’t want them to go.

So he made and put up that sign to see if he could practice loving letting go. It didn’t mean he liked it- he didn’t- but could he learn to love it? And with lots of practice, he eventually did.

As I started practicing with this message, all I could see were examples of my not loving letting go. David said that he saw lots of examples of my loving letting go, and gave examples. I hadn’t seen it that way- I would have told you that I disliked letting go, and cling onto everything to try to avoid letting go.

But I hadn’t seen it through the eyes of love- and that everything I’ve let go of is because of love- and to make room for the new, and for more love. It’s like practicing fast magic 😉

You may know that I created words to support this:

“The opposite of old is not young.

The opposite of old is new.

As long as we can experience the new, we will gloriously inhabit all of the ages that we are, and welcome all of the dreams that we have”

What are you practicing, or can you practice, loving letting go of? What’s NEW in your life?

Let me know. I’m practicing every day.

 

Love,

SARK

p.s. I also share fast magic over on Instagram, and I invite you to join me THERE~

Glory In The Garden + Let’s Speak More Easily and Often About Feeling Sad

Glory In The Garden + Let’s Speak More Easily and Often About Feeling Sad

I’d been feeling sad, and then saw these glorious plants and flowers and just wanted to simultaneously eat them and shout about their glory. So I ran over to show them my love, and David took the photo.

Sometimes when I feel sad or melancholy, nature is the only comfort. It’s my form of holy communion.

Recently I’ve written more often about feeling sad or upset and some people have written to express concern that I’m “not as happy as usual.” Of course I know they’re just concerned and want me to be feeling good as much as possible.

But it always surprises me when people question how happy I am- I’ve written 18 books about my beliefs and practices about practicing feeling all the feelings in my emotional family– which of course includes the less popular feelings like despair, anger, rage, melancholy, frustration and sadness.

I’ve also written weekly in this Magic Blog for years about the same subjects.

I know that projections (it must be easier for SARK) can be strong- and because I write in bright colors and often about happy things, that I’m this super positive happy person ALL THE TIME.

And of course I’m not and wouldn’t want to be!

Because when we try to block or not feel any feeling, it pops up or bulges out somewhere else for our love and attention, and blocks us feeling our other feelings too.

I also deliberately write and express about my less popular feelings because I know that everyone experiences these kinds of feelings, and I want us to collectively speak more easily and often about what hurts as much as what helps.

I believe that when we do this, we can alchemize and blend the terrible and wonderful into a brand new mixture to use for healing, and help each other more too.

Thankfully it’s happening more and more that we can be well received when we share our “actual experience” instead of the airbrushed version.

And do know and trust that when I write about any of my feelings, I’ve already moved or am moving to new ones by the time you read about it.

So let’s practice speaking more easily and often about sadness and about all our feelings- after all, they are e-motions- made to be in motion.

Do you relate to what I’m saying? Let me know. Comment below and I’ll love to know your experience.

Love,

SARK

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Happy Other’s Day, in addition to Mother’s Day

Happy Other’s Day, in addition to Mother’s Day

Loving is the whole point of course. 

And this is especially for everyone who isn’t a mother of physical children. For everyone who wanted to be, but didn’t or couldn’t. Or wanted to want to, but just didn’t.

For everyone who never wanted to be, but sometimes wishes there was a holiday for them too. For everyone OTHER than and in addition to, all the wonder~full mothers

For everyone who helps mothers mother, and everyone who is behind the scenes for all the mothers and the children, and those that love them. For all the great-grandparents, grandparents, godmothers, aunts and uncles and all the mothering with animals too

And for all who have lost a mother or never had one. 

So here’s to a new holiday I’m calling Other’s Day, and of course it fits for Mothers too, because they are not only mothers mothering. 

And here’s to the never mothers who relish the idea of being an other

and the others of EVERY description who didn’t fit in, or didn’t, or still don’t- play a role that everyone could see or understand. 

Here’s to all of us unique, illuminated, astounding human BEANS, bouncing along and BEAMING our love, no matter what day it is, or what it’s called.

The greeting of “Happy Other’s Day” makes me smile, so of course I wanted to share it, and my

love,

SARK

60 Is The New Sexy

60 Is The New Sexy

I invite you to join me in celebrating my beloved David’s 60 years on this planet on this day of April 28, 2021.

After this date wishes are welcome too!

And if you’d like to add any life wisdom you’ve gleaned, please do. Favorite quotes or good books to read appreciated also.

This is a favorite photo David sent me shortly after we met on the phone almost 3 years ago, when he received one of my blankets as a gift from me and a love note I’d tucked in. I love him and his open beaming face and spirit.

To celebrate his 60 years, I could easily focus on all his successes in life: more than 25 years as a Hollywood movie producer and screenwriter, and all that it produced, his two loving and successfull grown children, his loving relationship with his family, his willingness to do deep psychological work and cry easily, his being a man of faith, spiritually rebuilding his life after divorce and marrying himself before he had ever heard of SARK!

This man is truly loving the world and we practice doing that together. As much as we are partners and lovers, we are joyfull creators of the NEW.

I’ll be so incredibly glad to share with you what we’re creating together- of course I want to just burst in and start exclaiming about all the exciting things- and I must wait until they ripen and ready.

I asked his Dad what he loves about David, and he said,

“David is the most thoughtfull man I’ve ever met.”

What could be better than that?

Happy happy happiest birth?day my darling most beloved David.

Welcome to Level Six. (I like describing age in “levels.”)

You illuminate my soul every day and re-mind me to embody the gifts that I’ve been given. You help me to breathe through the obstacles and fears, inhale the ecstasy, and then share the integrated version of that.

Thank you for loving me so fully in my succulent wild woman self.

Thank you for being present for it ALL- the marvelous messy middle in all of its forms, and for the terrible things that happen.

Thank you for occupying your shadows and being willing to work through the difficult patterns that arise, and keep working- in therapy and in life.

Thank you for asking for, and allowing all the miracles.

Thank you for being so sexy and so real.

Thank you for lifting up all the souls you can reach with your prayers in action and your creativity in expression.

Thank you for being a gifted teacher and creator.

Thank you for BEing.

Love,

SARK

How To Be A Happy Writer

How To Be A Happy Writer

As we know, the living of life does not always feel happy, and there are countless reasons. 

I believe and practice with the idea that happiness can be cultivated in the marvelous messy middle places where most of the living of life takes place. 

My mom always said, “it’s not always marvelous!” When I would talk with her about the messy middle. 

And of course it isn’t, and doesn’t always feel, marvelous. 

I put marvelous in there to befriend messy. 

My life is so messy and so marvelous, and I’m sure yours is too. To live as fully as possible, I write, create and express my creativity. 

I’ve been writing for most of my life and publishing since 1990. 

Millions of my books have flown around the world to touch other hearts, and all those hearts have inspired me, and continue to inspire me, as I write and create my next book. 

I write and share my Magic Blog every week, and love all of your comments and supportive words. 

I love inspiring and mentoring other writers to write, and I know that 

“Every time you write, something valuable will occur.” 

Thank you to everyone who applied to my Magical Mentoring program – private 1 to 1 mentoring with me. We filled that up to overflow last week, and I have some other exciting ideas to support the writers and creators in my community. 

Come and write with me on Fri/26! At 1pm Pacific on FB Live(ly). I’ll be teaching and sharing about the wonders of writing, and some ways to begin, continue and complete your writing. 

Register HERE and you’ll receive the recording, plus a serendipitous SARK surprise if you can’t be there live.

Love,

SARK

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There Is A Method In My Gladness + An Invitation ? For You

There Is A Method In My Gladness + An Invitation ? For You

After experiencing a particularly harrowing part of my day the other day feeling anxieties, fears and resistance, I tried to “feel better” before I actually did.

This really never works.

Feelings always know 🙂 

I’ve learned and practice that if I can “be with” the feelings, instead of trying to get away from them, they can shift more easily.

When I shared with David that I needed to go on a long fast walk in order to move my energies, I described it as a “method in my madness.”

“It’s probably a method in your gladness” David replied calmly.

And I stopped to realize that this was probably true.

As you may know, I love to play with language, and possibly interrupt my use of common phrases with new ones.

And when I looked up the origins of “method in my madness,” this is what I found:

Telling someone “there is a method in my madness” is a way of asking him (them) to trust you until the outcome becomes more apparent. The phrase is derived from the play Hamlet, written by William Shakespeare, performed in 1602. The line is spoken by Lord Polonius: “Though this be madness, yet there is method in ‘t.”

And so it was both! Madness led to gladness and would surely lead back to madness again. Feelings are always arising to be experienced, felt, heard and seen, and when possible, loved.

And when we can consciously practice doing this with our feelings, our creativity flows most easily.

During this long fast walk, I found a spot to lie down and put my legs up, and there was a woman doing some kind of marvelous stretching at a railing in front of me. When David took this photo, he also captured her in a backbend. She probably had a method in her madness/gladness too.

In this time especially, it feels essential to move myself around more – emotionally as well as physically, so that I can create the new more easily.

How about you? What do you do to feel differently or better when you don’t? What “madnesses and gladnesses” have arisen? What are you creating these days? Let me know.

Love, 

SARK

p.s. I’m teaching a new class Fri/16th April for The Gathering of the Creatives Online – Paint, Poetry, & Inspiration.

My 2-hour online workshop is called:

Be Totally Inspired With SARK: Ignite Your Creativity and Do MORE of What You LOVE. 

Of course this will be an uncommon experience 😉 

Go HERE to find out more and use this special discount code: SUCCULENT1 for $50 off at checkout!

Birthday Month MAGIC – A 2 for 1 Experience

Birthday Month MAGIC – A 2 for 1 Experience

Most of you know that several years ago, I opened my heart to love again to epic love with David.

After my former fiancé John departed his life in 2016, I couldn’t imagine how I would ever “do that again.” In fact, I declared that I wouldn’t! I was so scared that I would never find someone, or allow myself to be found.

My heart and love itself had other ideas, and in 2018, I gained a magnificent and mighty love, along with a whole new loving family. My life suddenly sprung another full family! In addition to my already glorious family. I feel so blessed.

David, his 2 wonderfull parents, 2 loving brothers, their loving partners, and his 2 amazing grown children from his former marriage. And I love them all.

David’s son is named Ben, and he turns 29 tomorrow. I asked his permission to write about him, and he said,

“Write whatever you’d like- I trust you.”

Ben is a healer, in his last year of chiropractic school.

Here we are meeting for the very first time, and another photo I just love of Ben. (it is not an advertisement for this cereal, although it does look tasty:-)

An astrologer once told me that I would likely have a child in my 60’s, through unusual means.

It feels like that with Ben. Although of course, he’s not a child 😉

We communicate deeply in all the realms, and share philosophy and all the (other) real stuff of life too.

Last year, Ben experienced a catastrophic illness and moved in with us so we could help to care for him. I named it the “Bendemic” in the midst of the pandemic.

For many months, we witnessed his healing journey and held sacred space for his own process with it, which felt terrifying to the parts of me that wanted to “make him better” even though we knew it was his body, and his journey to take. We also knew that his life as a healer was being forged in the illness.

And of course David & I were mightily tested by this experience too. We grew even closer as a result.

I’m so glad to say that Ben created a profound healing path for himself, utilizing the best of integrative medicines and practices, and love.

The whole family joined in the healing, including his mom and sister, as we all focused on Ben returning to full, miraculous health.

He’s now in miraculous health, back in school, surfing, loving and living life with an even more mighty purpose. He’s living with us just for fun now til May, when he’ll return to live close to school as he wraps up his studies there.

Of course I could write a whole book about his happily loving life now- thank you to Ben for letting me share this excerpt.

It is my greatest joy to introduce you to the Ben of my heart as he turns 29 on April 17th. 

And here’s the two for one part:

my birthday is on the 19th! You might know that I do celebrate all month, so it’s not premature or belated whenever you might see this in April. 

This is my best ever birthday (being) present EVER EVER EVERmore.

Wish us both the halo year birthdays (autocorrect changed the word happiest to halo year- what could be better??)

WOW to April, to spring, to LOVE ?

Love,

SARK

p.s. if you haven’t found me on Instagram yet, I’m playing around over there too at: 

https://www.instagram.com/SARKifyLife/

SARK and the Purple Crayon

SARK and the Purple Crayon

 When I read the book Harold and the Purple Crayon as a child, I felt like I could create anything. 

Then I was challenged by life, and the living of life, and fell into a long silence with what I dreamed of creating and writing. 

Thankfully I reread Harold and the Purple Crayon, and began really living what is in that book;

If you dream it, it can be created and written. 

So I started dreaming of EVERYthing and then creating ways to write and create what I was dreaming of. So far, I’ve published 18 books and intend to publish many more!

You might know that I love being inspired and inspiring others – dreams made REAL are what is positively changing our world, and we are writing our new world into being. 

Me and my big purple pen are here to inspire you to write what you dream of, and I’m going to be inviting you to join me soon for something I’ve created that you will ABSOLUTELY LOVE.

I thought I would be ready to let you know about it today, but it needs a little more of my creative time – til next week- before your invitation is ready.

Let me know if you have writing dreams, or are writing something now or new- I’d love to celebrate you.

Love, 

SARK

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One of the very best love mentors ever

One of the very best love mentors ever

 One of my very best love mentors ever was and is my big black cat Jupiter, who lived and loved with me for 17 years.

I called him my “fur husband” and he slept with me every night – and part of each day as I was completely nocturnal at that time in my life.

Here we are in my Magic Cottage in San Francisco in the beginnings of our lives together.

I found Jupiter in the window of a department store in San Francisco called Gumps. He was part of a Victorian scene to promote adoption – having been rescued by the SPCA.

I had never had a cat, and had been taught to fear them by my mother who loved animals – especially dogs- but felt that cats couldn’t be controlled – and that all must be controlled 😉

 When I moved into the Magic Cottage I had just ended a long love relationship and felt lonely.

 Jupiter was not only an antidote to my loneliness, he was my unconditional love teacher, as I believe all animals are.

He mentored me deeply in the ways of love and loving, and showed me that love is infinite and extraordinary, and that all my fears were ordinary and couldn’t be trusted to guide my life.

 Jupiter and his extraordinarily loving ways helped me to create a life that was made of love, and I let that guide me.

 And so when the time came for his physical life to end, I was able to feel all the pain, all the loss and sorrow that were contained within that love, and let love lead in that ending, which immediately became a beginning.

 I took care of Jupiter for 9 months before he died in my arms. The unconditional love I experienced through his mentoring allowed me to practice next with people, and I created such great love relationships as a result.

 After Jupiter left, he became a magnificent spirit guide for me, and that continues in all sorts of ways.

 When I met John in 2012, he said,

“I’m your Jupiter now. Not to replace him, but to join him in loving you.”

I immediately exclaimed, “ I hope that doesn’t mean you’re going to die!”

 Thankfully he didn’t die then.

John and I lived 4 more happy years together before his dying in my arms in 2016, after I’d taken care of him for 9 months.

 I met David in 2018, and Jupiter’s love mentoring helped me to keep my heart open and allow that great love IN after I’d tried to close my heart to love again.

 David & I are wildly creating and multiplying love in the world with each other, and to share.

 Do you have, or have you had animal love mentors?

I’d love to see a photo and read your words.

 

Love, 

SARK

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