What We Must Do

What We Must Do

Be happy.

Pure hearted happiness is revolutionary if we practice it in the midst of all of our other feelings and experiences. 

Here I am being re-MINDed on one of my daily miracle walks in San Francisco.

And when you can’t be happy, (which happens to me periodically throughout the days also) and in addition to being happy, here are some other “must do” opportunities. Here’s what I vote for, in addition to all the rest.

What we must do:

We must fail, we must regress.

We must love and be loved.

We must feel all of our feelings.

We must grieve.

We must quit.

We must resist and refuse and lie sobbing in bed at 3am.

We must help others.

We must investigate and develop awarenesses of our racist, sexist classist, ableist, capitalist, privileged existences and make essential and substantial changes, and keep making them.

We must learn.

We must rest.

We must nourish our bodies, our minds, our souls and our spirits.

We must grow.

We must heal.

We must refuse to participate in spiritual bypassing or toxic positivity.

We must allow our intuition to speak and listen to what it says and then take new actions.

We must transform critical inner dialogue to be more nourishing than that.

We must play and experience joy and happiness.

We must practice receiving as well as giving.

We must create for ourselves and for the benefit of all.

We must fail to do all of the above and be willing to begin again in new ways, over and over and over.

That’s why it’s called practice.

And of course in all our fabulous failures lives the magic, the miracles and the marvelous messy middle of it all. All the brave successes and achievements contain multitudinous failures.

We can do the new, we can do less, we can do nothing, and we can continue practicing no matter what.

We can love ourselves more in the midst, and learn to speak incredibly kindly to ourselves and then as a result, to others.

Let me know if you have other must do’s to add to the list, and what’s currently bringing you happiness, or what happiness you’re bringing!

Love, 

SARK

p.s. I’m delightfully happy to have Susan B. Katz, award-winning, bestselling author join me on FB Live(ly) next Thu, 28th @ 2pm Pacific, and you’re invited!

It’s a special mini-meditation class on Loving + Kindness and the REAL life benefits. If you want loving support right now, come and be in the loving stream of energy with other miraculous souls. Children are welcome! 

Sign Up HERE + you’ll receive a reminder, plus the recording.

More Revealings for the Healings

More Revealings for the Healings

Here we are in America, seeing and experiencing such intense devastation in the aftermath of the riots in Washington last week, and white supremacy dominant all around. It feels truly heartbreaking to witness and experience all the divisive and cruel behaviors and actions right now, and I continue to believe that the terrifying revealings of all of these are absolutely necessary for all the healings to begin to occur.

The most mighty shadows are being exposed now more than ever, and we are faced with all that we are not, or not yet, and where new kinds of visioning is required. And of course it’s not only America that needs reVISIONing. 

New awarenesses, accountability and action taking are all being called for as we start to dismantle all that hasn’t worked for all, for so very long.

I wrote a Magic Blog on Nov 12 called the United States of Avoidance, about how accountability must come before unity, and if you want to read that, you can find it here.

As we navigate through these dangerous days, I believe that we are being called to live more fully inside of our hearts than ever before.

Here’s a piece of art from one of my journals. It’s my visual response about what the heart might look like, seen from the inside out. I see connection and love as primary, which also necessitates staying grounded and teachable as we respond to conditions inside ourselves, and the world, and all that we don’t know how to handle.

One of the ways to begin to heal ourselves, and consequently the world, involves facing and feeling ALL the feelings in our emotional families.

And we must be willing to keep asking and receiving support for change and growth, as a result of feeling these feelings – you probably know that I also believe and teach that great mental health is primary to being able to keep going and growing.

I send you willingness, grace, fortitude and resiliency as we keep proceeding inward and forward.

If you wish, let me know what you are sending out as you learn and grow, and what’s something your heart is guiding you to do or be?

Love, 

SARK

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SARK’s NEWest Year Blessing

SARK’s NEWest Year Blessing

Bless this newest Year. Bring the oldest you along.

If you want a truly NEW year, become the newest oldest you, and blend the two together and go forward with ALL of you, and let us all see and know that you.

Start NOW or forever hold your pieces.

Because of course it is always now.

 “The opposite of old is not young. The opposite of old is new. As long as we can experience the new, we will gloriously inhabit all of the ages that we are, and welcome all of the dreams that we have”

 I created these words to inspire myself and others to allow and practice the NEW as much as possible, whatever age you might be.

I often try to cling to whatever is more familiar and perhaps not my most alive choice. The most alive choice often feels scary – fizzy or makes the hairs on the back of your neck stand up. This is where your creative dreams live.

 Reflect on one thing you are feeling afraid of and one thing you are reveling in.

 I’m afraid of anxiety running wild & I’m blending and alchemizing these experiences and others into my “marvelous messy middle” life. 

 I’m reveling in the explorations of my soul, and drenching myself in what fills my soul as much as possible, and spending more time there.

 In this NEW year, may you rediscover and experience all the wisdom that you gathered in this last year, and apply it again freshly and fully and newly this year.

 If you became an activist, deepen it. If you resisted activism, let yourself soften and see what kind actually fits you and your actual life.

 If you tried and failed at something, congratulate yourself for the reaching and readjust your approach. Tune your vision to receive in new ways.

 If you wanted and it was not given, ask, ask again differently and practice receiving. 

 If grief or grieving are surrounding you, let yourself be consumed by the waves, and let your love and loving be multiplied.

 If you felt furious, heartsick, lonely, despairing, frightened or baffled, thank you for being human and living your life.

 If you felt euphoric, joyfilled, satisfied, successfull, resolved and complete, share it and help others.

 Happy happy NEWEST Year and blessings to all the other ones too. 

I send you my most soul full loving illuminations.

 

Love, 

SARK

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Built to Love

Built to Love

My love partner David arrived to our lunch table wearing this post it on his T-shirt.

And of course two tiny rainbows hopped on for emphasis.

He had received this message in one of his daily communions with God & spirit, and had written these words in his journal, and then wanted to share them creatively with me. 

Love loves loving, and love loves moving through us. In that way, we are all built for love and for loving. 

Thank you to everyone that celebrated our love union on an anniversary I posted about recently- it’s so wonderfull to celebrate love and loving.

I think there can also be a “tyranny of couples” where we imagine that “if only we could find love with another” life might somehow be easier, better, or more romantic. And it can be, and often is wonderfull to be part of a couple, and we must all practice solo too.

When I was soulfully single, I practiced in these soul loving ways, and romanced myself. I am continuing to do that with myself and in partnership with David.

One of our main commitments to ourselves and each other is to tend to our own alignment before reaching out to the other. This means we spend time separately tending to our own souls, so that we can truly be together when we are. We live in a fairly small space, so it means that we get creative to be able to do so. 

And I’m practicing this kind of “intimacy with myself” in new ways while we’re together too. 

In what ways are you built for love?

How are you practicing loving yourself while loving others?

In what ways is love moving through you?

Let me know if you wish, and know that I’m all-ways practicing.

Love, ever love,

SARK

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Happy Thanks~Grieving

Happy Thanks~Grieving

Here we are in America, at Thanks~Giving time, and in the world all-ways giving thanks.

I think of it as Thanks~Grieving too.

It might seem odd to give thanks for grieving, yet I believe it is generative to be gratefull for the grieving as much as we acknowledge all the love that is woven through it.

My deeper experiences with grieving started with the death of my beloved former fiancé John in 2016, and a book I began writing with the working title of “Deeply Grieving, Wildly Living.” I believe we are made to do both together, like bird wings.

We are all grieving in one or more ways, for a myriad of losses. It is not only death that calls for grieving.

I wish that grieving were more ordinarily spoken of, and that we would support ourselves and others in openly grieving, while also giving all thanks for all we have. You can do this by speaking of and acknowledging others grieving, and grieve your own losses as you move through life.

The naming of, and the awareness of grieving, will shapeshift the subject forward for all to benefit from. Grieving gathers helpers and angels too. I believe and know from experience, that angels are in attendance whether we believe in them or not. 

“Clusters of Angels

All along your path

Wherever you go

There are

Clusters of angels

On a mission

These angels

Surround your soul

Wherever you go

Whatever happens” 

I want to recognize the many many people who have been, or are going through challenging times, who feel confused, alone, lost, or scared in the world today- which is all of us at one time or another, and many more people than ever as we all experience this global pandemic time.

I want to share my love and transcendent wishes for people to be able to also deeply grieve while living and loving.

Here’s a VERY partial list of my recipients. 

Please add yours to the comments if you wish.

I am sending love and transcendence to:

  • Everyone in this global pandemic, and all the families who have experienced the death of loved ones or health challenges as a result, and all the essential workers in hospitals and every other realm
  • All the teachers teaching virtually in new ways and all the parents adjusting and helping their children to adjust 
  • All businesses lost or closed
  • All affected by wildfires, earthquakes, hurricanes, tornadoes and other planetary expressions
  • All who feel lonely, or forgotten or without hope
  • All experiencing inner critics without supervision or translation
  • All who feel unlovable, unloved or unseen
  • All concerned, conflicted, despairing,  frustrated and or fed up with political outcomes and irreconcilable differences
  • All who rise for social justice and keep rising
  • All who know that the political is the personal
  • All who go beyond the personal to work for a mighty vision for change
  • All who think they can’t
  • All who feel ignored, repressed, closed out, treated unkindly or unfairly
  • All who experience racism
  • All unaware of their racism
  • All educating themselves and others about privilege, racism, and the immense necessary changes needed
  • All who experience sexism
  • All who are other gendered and feel unknown 
  • All who experience ableism
  • All who judge
  • All who feel and are judged unfairly
  • All who are feeling suicidal
  • All who are hiding or scared 
  • All who are ill or in pain in any form
  • All disconnected from their wisdom and power
  • All who fear
  • All who fear fear
  • All who deny, resist, avoid and repress their feelings 
  • All who refuse to face facts
  • All who say science isn’t real
  • All who believe in only what can be seen
  • All who struggle against great obstacles to build a better world 
  • All who quit because of fear, doubt or worry
  • All who cry alone unendingly
  • All who try to stop or apologize for their tears and say “I’m sorry” for being human
  • All who experience violence from the hands or guns of another 
  • All who feel forgotten, misunderstood, or unseen
  • All who are trapped, imprisoned or wrongly accused
  • All who wonder why they’re here
  • All who know why they’re here and yet sometimes despair at the time it will take to transform themselves and the world
  • All who live, love and practice in the marvelous messy middle of life, and help others to do so too

All BEings

All ways

All the time. 

Feel free to share this writing with others- let’s openly welcome grieving and mix it liberally with our loving, and our living. 

Love,

SARK

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The Art of Heart Opening

The Art of Heart Opening

About 2 years ago, David moved from his home in Massachusetts to my home in San Francisco- he had lived in California for most of his life before that.

We met on my “Inspiration Phone” line (415 546 3742) and grew in love talking on the phone for months before we met.

Here we are 2 years ago in this photo- I love my messy hair and our smiling faces.

I count it as one of my voluminous miracles that I opened my heart again and let love IN.

I had asked for the miracle of an epic love, and it happened. And I didn’t ask for epic love to arrive when my heart was closed.

I had to open my heart.

My dear friend Val had asked me not to close my heart after John died, and I replied that it was too late- I had already closed it.

She calmly said, “You can always open it again.”

And somehow, I did.

Of course it was a messy process, full of stops, starts and stutters. And sometimes refusals.

At first I just peered out and quickly closed it again.

Then I practiced with energy medicine and EFT, and my heart stayed open longer.

Then I got scared and closed my heart again.

Then I wrote and shared something called “I’m Dating the World,” and my heart expanded and opened.

And David read what I had written and called me, and I called him back! We communed for hours right away.

It was an outright miracle and my heart bloomed even more open.

It’s open almost all-ways now as David & I live, love and continue to create our mostly wonderfull life together. I say mostly because it’s an art to practice, and keep practicing.

I realize now that all through my life, I’ve closed and opened my heart, and asked for miracles.

Sometimes it appears that the miracle doesn’t appear- certainly the form changes often from what I originally envisioned or asked for. Sometimes I can’t receive what I’ve asked for, or don’t know how to.

My willingness to ask and keep asking, and then receive what comes, has grown ever stronger over these many years.

My “miracle vision” is tuned to SEE the miracles, and ask for more.

And of course the realest miracle is YOU.

We are made for miracles, and our hearts are made to open- again and again. 

Let me know how your heart is moving and what you’re loving these days in our wildly precious earth lives~

Love,

SARK

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The United States of Avoidance

The United States of Avoidance

Here we are in America, in this post-election time of divisiveness, hope, and seemingly insurmountable differences in need of healing. I believe that it is time for accountability, then unity.

I’ve been reflecting a lot about “what’s going on.” And I believe that we can no longer avoid delving into the devastation.

Here I am in the photo, out for one of my daily miracle walks, and someone had written the word unity on the sidewalk. I’ve added the word account-ability in red above it on the photograph.

And I think that’s also a partial equation because BIPOC (Black Indigenous People Of Color) and other groups of marginalized people need freedom before unity.

I find myself with my privilege wanting to rush right to the unity- to see beyond differences- to fix the problems and make them go away. I too get tempted by the “hurry up and heal” model- because it’s so incredibly uncomfortable to be in devastated places.

And of course we want to heal! 

Or at least many want to heal. Some are not ready, or don’t know how.

Others are refusing. 

Many others are avoiding their feelings, or feeling too many feelings at once, or just overwhelmed by it all.

But the problems won’t go away until we face and feel what’s made them stay this way, and then do the necessary accounting for the damage that has been done, and fix that- at the root.

And I believe that we need considerable help for the fixing- and the healing.

Many years ago, the love relationship I was in had become intolerable, and I wanted to leave as a solution. I thought that if I left, my problems would go away. And of course some would. But I knew that the root causes would continue growing. 

So I took a step I hadn’t taken before in any of my other love relationships- I asked a skilled therapist to intervene and help us, instead of trying to avoid further pain by running away from the relationship. 

I felt so scared and sure it wouldn’t work.

The therapist led both of us through a process we co-created that he called a “relationship autopsy.” We examined the relationship together in a forensic way- and looked at all of our internal systems that contributed to what wasn’t working, and we each accounted for the parts we brought to the relationship that contributed to its non functioning.

That work was hard and took time, and eventually resulted in us deciding to part. That parting was now informed and supported by the accounting, and all had been said and expressed- what a relief! 

Over time, we developed feelings of unity, and understood each other far more than we had before. 

We were able to heal only after we examined the whole creation, and made the necessary amends. 

It was totally worth doing this work, and it made me better able to give and receive love in every relationship since then.

I appreciate what lawyer Sherrilyn Ifill says in the following quote, and would add one word- and that word is yet. I think that it is not yet time for rushing to the healing, and I believe that we must all do the kind of preliminary work that is required to begin healing.

With respect, this is not the time for healing. We have not properly diagnosed the sickness or cleaned the wound. We have not begun to investigate why the illness was allowed to fester so long or identified those who withheld early treatment.”

—Sherrilyn Ifill 

President and Director-Counsel of the NAACP Legal Defense and Educational Fund

I believe that we are each being called now to do deeper work with ourselves, with our families and loved ones, and then bring our full hearts and growing awarenesses to do the necessary collective feeling and healing work that must be done, together.

And then we can begin moving from the United States of Avoidance to the United States of America.

May we all be willing to do, and continue doing, the necessary work- even when it is hard or we feel hopeless. May we receive the joys and benefits of doing our inner work, and seeing substantive outer results. May we practice resting as well as rising up.

I wish for skilled therapy for us all- in whatever forms that takes.

I see, feel and am experiencing the incredible healings that are possible by working at the roots. This is what I both teach and practice.

I love to see and support all the profound ways that love and miracles move, and keep moving among us, with our full and imperfect participation.

If you wish, you are welcome to let me know what you’re creating, learning and experiencing. 

Love,

SARK

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Let the Healings Continue

Let the Healings Continue

I’m reminded that I used to receive this little pink pill at the dentist, which I was instructed to chew before my cleaning

It then revealed all the places I hadn’t brushed by depositing a pink residue wherever there was plaque. No matter how carefully I brushed before the appointment, this dreaded pink pill revealed the truth.

And now in our world, all the truths are continuing to be revealed. The divisions are being extraordinarily highlighted, and there is tremendous healing work to be done.

You might be wondering and asking how to continue.

Be patient and deep the faith. 

As we continue to count and watch the election unfoldings in America- this is being written on Thu/5, 

May we continue to count the ways that love maintains. 

Let all the upheavals be felt and emotionally processed by us ongoingly. 

Let the many and mightily necessary healings begin and continue. 

And I’m including my mentor Dr. Maya Angelou’s poem here to re-MIND us all to continue.

Love,

SARK

“CONTINUE”

Into a world which needed you

My wish for you

Is that you continue

Continue

To be who and how you are

To astonish a mean world

With your acts of kindness

Continue

To allow humor to lighten the burden

of your tender heart

Continue

In a society dark with cruelty

To let the people hear the grandeur

Of God in the peals of your laughter

Continue

To let your eloquence

Elevate the people to heights

They had only imagined

Continue

To remind the people that

Each is as good as the other

And that no one is beneath

Nor above you

Continue

To remember your own young years

And look with favor upon the lost

And the least and the lonely

Continue

To put the mantel of your protection

Around the bodies of

The young and defenseless

 Continue

 To take the hand of the despised

And diseased and walk proudly with them

In the high street

Some might see you and

Be encouraged to do likewise

 

Continue

 To plant a public kiss of concern

On the cheek of the sick

And the aged and infirm

And count that as a

Natural action to be expected

 Continue

 To let gratitude be the pillow

Upon which you kneel to

Say your nightly prayer

And let faith be the bridge

You build to overcome evil

And welcome good

 Continue

 To ignore no vision

Which comes to enlarge your range

And increase your spirit

 Continue

 To dare to love deeply

And risk everything

For the good thing

 Continue

 To float

Happily in the sea of infinite substance

Which set aside riches for you

Before you had a name

 Continue

 And by doing so

You and your work

Will be able to continue

Eternally

 (poem written by Maya Angelou in 2016 for Oprah) 

©️Maya Angelou

 

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I Send You: Maybe

I Send You: Maybe

Maybe we are building a new world.

Maybe we’ll paint marshmallows purple, or free circus elephants.

Maybe we’ll ride on a chocolate merry-go-round, or make tennis shoes for camels.

Maybe we’ll find a child who feels unsafe at home, and take her out of there right away. 

Maybe we’ll mail so many letters to God

that everything gets all healed up.

Maybe we’ll take all the mean people, and use them to fill up the ozone hole.

Maybe when we see a sign that says “drawbridge,” we’ll get out and do a lovely bridge sketch.

Maybe we’ll make airplanes out of the same material that the “black box” is made of.

Maybe we’ll live in real communities, equal for everyone.

Maybe 100% of the people will vote, and start a new world.

Maybe everyone is an angel, god, animal, nature, all rolled into one bundle of nerve and tissue, lip and bone.

Maybe we’ll all stop fighting and trying to be right.

Maybe there will be nap rooms everywhere, and cars will run on kisses.

Maybe dreams are real, and all the homeless will move onto all the golf courses.

Maybe schools are filled with imagination, and prisons have nutritious food and spiritual programs.

Maybe we are all free, safe and well loved.

Maybe we all want the same things.

Maybe we all love everyone.

Let me know any of your Maybe’s- I’ll love to hear.

And of course definitely VOTE.

Love,

SARK

 

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I Send You: Maybe

I Send You: Maybe

Maybe we are building a new world.

Maybe we’ll paint marshmallows purple, or free circus elephants.

Maybe we’ll ride on a chocolate merry-go-round, or make tennis shoes for camels.

Maybe we’ll find a child who feels unsafe at home, and take her out of there right away. 

Maybe we’ll mail so many letters to God

that everything gets all healed up.

Maybe we’ll take all the mean people, and use them to fill up the ozone hole.

Maybe when we see a sign that says “drawbridge,” we’ll get out and do a lovely bridge sketch.

Maybe we’ll make airplanes out of the same material that the “black box” is made of.

Maybe we’ll live in real communities, equal for everyone.

Maybe 100% of the people will vote, and start a new world.

Maybe everyone is an angel, god, animal, nature, all rolled into one bundle of nerve and tissue, lip and bone.

Maybe we’ll all stop fighting and trying to be right.

Maybe there will be nap rooms everywhere, and cars will run on kisses.

Maybe dreams are real, and all the homeless will move onto all the golf courses.

Maybe schools are filled with imagination, and prisons have nutritious food and spiritual programs.

Maybe we are all free, safe and well loved.

Maybe we all want the same things.

Maybe we all love everyone.

Let me know any of your Maybe’s- I’ll love to hear.

And of course definitely VOTE.

Love,

SARK

 

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